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Did anyone else not get a Mothers Day present?

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Mosschops30 · 27/03/2006 11:10

and if not are you upset about it. I went away this weekend to see my mum and took dd, ds stayed at home with dh. He didnt get a card in time for when I left so he had to wait for dd to write it when I got home yesterday. I didnt get anything else, dh thinks I'm being materialistic and selfish but I always buy him a fathers day pressie even if its socks.
When I asked him why he said 'you dont deserve one'.
So should I be as angry and upset as I am?

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JackieNo · 27/03/2006 11:16

and at 'you don't deserve one'. I didn't get one - just cards, and I was a bit disappointed, but not too much. I think I might make a point of buying something nice for Father's day when it comes, just to heap coals of fire.

acnebride · 27/03/2006 11:18

no present, no card, no lie-in. dh was ill this weekend so never mind. not that bothered tbh, though I did 'notice' IYSWIM. Got nice lunch and a short nap at the in-laws.

Lasvegas · 27/03/2006 11:51

Didn't get a card or gift last year but this year DH cooked for me, my mum and his parents and got a well chosen card and flowers.

I wasn't upset last year. dH was away for whole weekend anyway. Don't think he realised that I was also a mum. ie mothers day is about his mum not his wife.

dinosaure · 27/03/2006 11:52

I just got three cards but they were all lovely home-made ones. But I think it's horrid that your DH said that you didn't deserve a present. Is he often like that?

kama · 27/03/2006 12:00

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TheBlonde · 27/03/2006 12:01

No present but got a card this morning

Feistybird · 27/03/2006 12:05

I got cards and stuff my kids had made - all lovely.

'you don't deserve one' - was he taking the piss or is he just an unthinking rude twit?

pepperpots · 27/03/2006 12:09

No ds's bio father is a selfish get who only thinks of himself! But dp did cook me breakfast, wash up after, and clean up sick of my poorly ds1 so i was happy

SleepySuzy · 27/03/2006 12:12

I got a homemade card from nursery, and a card bought by dh.

Was momentarily disappointed, but when I think about it: dh has cancer, and no income; dd is 2. I am thankful that I have them both, they are very precious, and that is enough.

shellybelly · 27/03/2006 12:12

my dad used to say to my mum 'you aren't my mother!' so she never got anything, wasn't meant nastily i should add she just had to wait till we were old enough to get her a card/present. I did get a card infact two, one from nursery and one from dh, I did get prezzies but as long as i got a card I would have been happy with that, did you ask him why he said you didn't deserve one?

foxinsocks · 27/03/2006 12:14

I'd be upset by the comment.

I didn't get a pressie but I wasn't expecting one - both kids made me cards at school (dd even wrote a poem!) so that made my day.

babywhiting · 27/03/2006 12:20

I got a card made card from Dd's school and one that Dp had bought from them both,wasm't worried bout the prezzie but he did cook fry up for brekkie and bought me a coffee in bed generally does everything for me anyway with me being 26 weeks pregnant.Also looked after the children (theyre not his from my ex husband-but we are expecting our first together)he loves my kids like they are his own...and they adore him!!! he took me shopping and bought a couple of baby bits and offered to buy me lots but i said no and opted for a cuddle instead!!!!
reason he said he hadn't got me a prezzie was that he had spent all his tme with me and had not had an opportunity to buy anything without me even wanted to buy me some perfume but i turned it down!!!!
nevermind i had a great day!!!!

Normsnockers · 27/03/2006 12:23

I got a card that ds amde nursery and I know that dh bought a gift and a card but couldn't be arsed to get them presented to me so they are still on the chest of drawers in the back bedroom.

He needs a guilt-trip so come fathers day ds and I will be pulling out all the stops, pressie, breakfast in bed.

If this doesn't reap any reward next year he may well be getting solicitors papers.

zazas · 27/03/2006 13:24

I didn't get a 'present' although it is a 'tricky' situation. ExH asked our DD (8) if she wanted him to buy me some flowers for Mother's Day (which was very sweet and unexpected of him!) but she said 'no need as she was making me a small posy at Brownies'!!!! Laughed at that - must have a chat with her! Meanwhile DP did nothing on behalf of my DD and DS as he said it was my EXH responsibility. Having said that he did nothing for his DS and DD's BM either! Plus nothing from his kids to me (a card would be nice) even though he insists that I am a 'Mother' to them and of course I am when they are with us - about a third of the time! I don't really mind as he is usually very generous with me..... but some acknowledgement would be nice and I have to admit I did find it upset me - so I agree with your feelings Mosschops. Having said all that my DS (4) made me a wonderful card, with a picture he drew of me holding flowers and him giving me some more. Then he said one day when he grows up he is going to get me that many flowers for Mother's Day...absolutely made my day!

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Mosschops30 · 27/03/2006 14:02

I am hurt by the comment, and also the fact that when I got home the house was like a bombsite and even though I had tried to do all the washing for him (despite being in work all day) before I left, they were still in the wash basket on my return, not even put away.
He has been horrible lately and I cannot cope anymore, this was the straw that broke the camels back

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MrsBigD · 27/03/2006 14:14

didn't get a pressie, didn't expect one either though. No card, but lovely flowers dd picked... guess what... they're pink

I would have been very cross with the 'you don't deserve on' comment though. Any reply, like 'I think mothers day is just another commerciallisation for shops to make profits' would have been 'better' than that, or even 'oh I forgot!'

blueteddy · 27/03/2006 14:23

I didn't get a present but I got two cards - one made by DS1 & the other one was a shop bought one from them both.
I would also be very cross if I was told I didn't deserve a present though.

petunia · 27/03/2006 14:26

I got cards from DDs made at school and playgroup and that was it. Normally DH would have got me a card from him and DDs but he was ill last week. He actually asked me last Thursday if I could get a card for his Mum (erm no! I don't like her and she's not my mother!) So on Thursday he was feeling better so he did manage to get to Sainsbury's when we picked DD1 up from school to get a card, sign and post it for MIL. When I mentioned yesterday that he managed to get a card to his Mum but not to me, he said he couldn't very well buy one with me sitting in the car waiting for him (I'm sure he could have smuggled one under his coat or something!) So I've ended up with nothing from him but a little miffed that he managed to send one to his mother. Although he said that he'd get me some flowers there weren't any left yesterday, so I doubt I'll see any, just like I didn't get the flowers he said he'd get for Valentine's Day either!

Sorry that was a bit of a whinge.

wessexgirl · 27/03/2006 14:27

I didn't get anything but a card which I helped dd1 make at playgroup! Wasn't really expecting anything as dh is well-known tightwad but it was a bit disappointing. DD1 has a raging fever and dd2 teething so it was a delightful day all round.

As for your little charmer, mosschops, what the hell is his problem? I'd be thinking of a nice father's day surprise for him, along the lines of Dirty Den's 1985(?) Christmas present to Ange. (If you're old enough to remember that, lol).

ChampagneandNappies · 27/03/2006 14:32

Haven't read any of this BUT ..... am I being absolutely out of order?????? Mothers Day....My f-ing husband, took the kids downstairs at 7am. I was downstairs at 8.20am to be asked "what are you doing down here?2 He then got our housekeeper to give me a vase of flowers. He then went back to bed at 9.20am and left me with 3 kids. I then had to prepare lunch for his parents with said kids at my feet (7 mths, 2.5yrs and 3.5yrs). His parents turned up at 12pm and I awoke my husband at 12.15pm. He was so apololgetic - TO HIS PARENTS - for not being downstairs to greet them!!!!!! I then did everything whilst he sat with his parents talking about business. I am so pissed off.

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Mosschops30 · 27/03/2006 14:36

like your style wessexgirl I am totally thinking in the same direction. I dont need this shit and I wont put up with it!
Whinge away everybody, lets have a right old go!

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PandaG · 27/03/2006 14:36

I had lovely handmade cards from school and nursery, and DH bought me a book I wanted on Friday, and DD and DS chose me some flowers while we were all doing the supermarket shop on Saturday. I should be really grateful, but I wish the book and flowers had been presented to me yesterday morning rather than being brought in with the rest of the shopping. Did get breakfast in bed - the whole family ended up eating hot cross buns in our bed, and I had to change the bedlinen as didn't want to sleep with the crumbs!

petunia · 27/03/2006 16:35

ChampagneandNappies- Can't believe your DH did that! And you spent your Mother's Day catering to his parents. I would have been well peeved as well.

jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 27/03/2006 16:37

i only got cards, but i got breakfast in bed and SO many kisses and cuddles that i didnt care.

We cant afford presents at the moment, so i knew before hand that i wasnt getting a present.

I would be angry at the " you dont deserve one" Comment though.....

Rochwen · 27/03/2006 18:52

I didn't get one either but I'm not heartbroken as dd is too wee to write a card yet.

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