Hi, really need some opinions or advice PLEASE
Been with my partner 5 years and for the first year he was still seeing his ex, he left me for her when i was pregnant.
She was a real nasty piece of work and threatened to beat me up and kill my unborn child, when baby was born she repetedly called my baby a "bastard baby" and threated to stamp on my head whilst i was in hospital.
He eventually left her and we got together properly. After a year i became suspicious of him with his phone, he had a code on it and when he text me he had started spelling things differently (the same way that bitch spelt them) and turned out he was texting her.
I threw him out. After a few days he begged me to take him back and said he would get rid of his phone. So thats what happened.
He didnt have a phone for a year.
Then last year he announced he was getting an iphone. And i was livid. He said it was time to move on and start trusting him.
Things where fine, he leaves his phone lying around so its there if i want to look, and if i ask to use it its not a problem. The thing is, on iphones when you get a text it comes up in a little box on the screen, so i could always see who a message was off and read the first couple of lines, it put my mind at ease.
Today he told me he's knocked that feature off, so messages dont come up on screen they go straight to his inbox. He also sent a message today and usually he would write "wat" but now he's started writing it as "w@" and i dont know where he's picked that up from (he says he saw it in a quiz in nuts magazine?!)
So now ive got myself into a state convinced myself he's.trxting somebody else, his exact words when i mentioned my concernes was "if you dont trust me now then go and fuck yourself" and wont turn the feature back on saying its none of my business
Im angry and dont know what to think.
What do you all think of this (and please excuse typos as im on my phone)