leaving him

[jodie1984]

ive told him i want to leave, he doesnt seem bothered but where do i go?

firstly why are you leaving - if its for domestic abuse call womens aid immediately. if not get yourself to the council in the morning and get somewhere sorted. financially you need to look at how to survive on your own and perhaps an appointment with the cab to go thru your options

no just out of love. we are in a council flat now but i know he wont give it up and he has bought everything. he is the type of person to let me and ds suffer just to get his own way.

is there a relative you could stay with?

i think you need to seek some legal advice in that case. i think there are legal things that say you and your son can stay in the house but i dont know enough. i think the council will rehouse you in the event of a split but it will be up to you to refurnish.

whos name is the council house in?

Go to CAB at the very least, get some advice on what to do jodie, don't just leave

I think the council are obliged to give you emergency B and B accommodation but I don't know how it works

if its in his name go to homelss section of council tomorrow they will put you in a hostel for 6 weeks then get you a house - but you cant be fussy.

if its in your name - kick him out, get the police, change the locks when he goes out.

if its joint - your a bit fucked

if you have been living together for six months (i think) then you do have certain rights as the law will see you as (i know it's not a very nice term) "common-law partners". please see your local branch of cab who can help you free. hth and good luck x

the common law partners is not true I'm afraid. There is no such thing. It is one of those legal myths that refuses to die

make sure you get advice cos council might refuse to help you if you make yourself 'intentionally homeless' eg. have legal right to stay in your home with child. Get advice from CAB before you do anything.

oh. well you learn something new every day. was bit suprised at that. how are you today jodie1984? ((((hugs))))