How can you forgive and forget an emotional affair? I found a text from an ex girlfriend and confronted my husband. He had been in contact for 2 years and has said that they only went out to lunch a handful of times and kept in touch by phone. She was married when they first had a relationship and he was hurt very badly by her. He tracked her down on facebook and I believe that he instigated all the contact. She is now divorced. I have spoken to her once and she said they are just friends! My husband does not want to talk about it anymore because he says that there is nothing more to discuss. He says we have both had a wake up call and need to work on our marriage. He says he loves me. He had talked to me on a couple of occasions 2-3 years ago about our relationship saying we were more like brother and sister and he wanted more. At the time I felt pressured and he understood. He is a wonderful person and I can't believe he could do this to me. I have 3 children from a previous marriage now 24, 21 and 17 and we have a child aged 10. My problem is I'm confused and angry. I want to talk more and may be call this woman but think this would be wrong. any suggestions