So hes took my dog

[Pugless]

Hi all

Just had a massive row with dp. It was all down to an argument over dcs. I have 3 dcs one ds with current dp and 2 wiith ex. The exs mum comes to pick the 2dcs up on a saturday there isnt a word said between me and her infact the kids are always (weather permitting) at the gate waiting. Anyway today the ex came wirh his mum but the usual happend dcs were waiting quickly shouted bye and off they went.

I then got a fone call from current dp asking who had been for exs dcs explained mother came and the he went off on one current dp had seen ex on his way to mine and because when current dp had asked me i didnt say ex had been also i was all the lying cows in the world.

I explained i didnt see how it was important as kids were waiting nothing was said i didnt even see ex.

Anyway he came back from work got some of his stuff took my cars and scooped up the dog annoucing its over and he hopes i rot in hell

He started an argument because he could and the reason he could is that, instead of kicking him into touch long ago, you put up with it and every time you do so you continue to send him the message that he can carry on doing it because you're scared of doing without him.

To borrow a phrase from AF, has he got a mahoosive golden dick?

Ha no its not golden. And to top the day off ex has just dropped dcs a full day early with a message passed on through my ds saying dads going out so we cant sleep at his house!!!! So after months of court dates cos he wanted more access he last 3 weekends

The ex has come to your garden gate again? I suggest you hide the dog, nail your car to the drive, and lock up anything that's of value to you before dickhead comes back to start another bust-up.

Wow OP, you really have picked a couple of charmers there! The Ex really knows how to make his children feel special doesn't he?

Its a shame you can't just move house and not leave a forwarding address! Your poor DCs!

I think some time on your own with your children would be fantastic. You don't need someone like your current 'D'P.

Izzy
I know it's not the point of the thread and I'm sure you meant nothing by it but 'Indian giver' is a somewhat racist phrase.

Whocan: yes i know dcs were upset but sweetend them up with a takeaway and x factor. We are back in court soon anyway.

I was on my own for a while me and ex where on and off so up until meeting current dp i classed myself as a single mum i was workin p/time and living my life. I met dp 8weeks after dd was born.

Hes asleep on the sofa dogs asleep under dds bed. Still no car keys. Tbh i cant be arsed arguing anymore. Just shitting myself at the thought if him going as i will be on my own (no family major issues there)

Fgs, ask him to return the keys.

Apologies if I've got the wrong end of the stick. If your ex isn't supposed to come near you/the house because of a legal order against him due to DV, then I can understand that your DP would be angry (it would be misplaced anger) if he thought you were 'letting' the ex undermine that order when perhaps you 'ought' to be reporting the matter. However these things aren't that simple...

Your DP doesn't sound like a huge improvement on the DV ex, 'though. Sometimes when you have had an abusive relationship, your boundaries and expectations of future relationships are coloured by it, and if the next guy is slightly less obvious/not as bad as the prior one, you can accept things in a relationship that really aren't acceptable.