DUMPED BY MY MEDALLION MAN

[MiriamS]

I'M 55 and lived with my husband for over 30 years. I tried to be the perfect wife and treated him like a king.

We had some rough spots but I loved him and did all the housework, decorating and gardening.

After our 30th wedding anniversary, he changed. He said he no longer loved me and virtually ignored me from that day.

He dyed his hair, started wearing cheap-looking chains round his neck and dressed like a 20-year-old.

I still looked after him, hoping he'd come back to me emotionally, but he told me he wanted someone younger.

I had no choice but to move out and now I live in a small flat with my memories of our happy times. I've been on my own for two years and I'm very lonely. I just don't understand what happened to the man I loved.

he is a gobshite LOL

HE had a mid-life crisis. Your anniversary may have been the catalyst for him to take stock of his life and where it was going.

He probably looked in the mirror, saw himself as an old man and panicked. There was so much he hadn't done and time was running out. His wish for a younger partner was calculated to reaffirm his youthfulness.

This kind of crisis can affect men in different ways. Some weather the storm as they have the self-confidence to accept themselves as they are, while others, like your husband, go off the rails.

A crisis of this kind can throttle relationships. But you must understand, no matter what you did or didn't do, you didn't have control over him, only yourself.

It may be some comfort that he probably didn't understand what he was doing and didn't deliberately set out to hurt you.

However, as you've discovered, the crisis doesn't necessarily end in a week or two. It may take years to get resolved.

You've put your own life on hold for far too long. Now is the time for you to develop yourself as an independent person.

You must take responsibility for yourself and your happiness without relying on him for the closeness and intimacy you crave.

Hi Miriam, what a dreadful time you've had recently. I can't stop and post now, but just wanted to make sure you knew that someone was here!

I'll try and call back later.

are you feeling ok miriam, not a little er overtired lol

Where's your young son that you mention on the other thread? You haven't mentioned him here...

Nor the husband that she's cheating on that she mentions on yet another thread ...

oh gawd is this a wind up??

so you have a pot smoking young son whom you leave alone while lyou go shagging strangers and you live alone OKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

He is on dadsnet posting now.He left because of lack of blow jobs.

Ha ha - miriam, you are amusing!

What a horrible time your having you go out and sleep with men because your husband works away, your son smokes too much pot, and you also live alone. Do you lead three lives.
Trip trap

I think people are being too hard on you you are obviously really f**d if you need to do this Why not ask Deirdre what her take is on a silly person who takes on other peoples probs as her/his own and then asks advice

LOL!

I thought those thread titles looked like Sun headlines!

Hi space donkey how ya doin

heavenis, I've been meaning to email you this week ... been burying head in the sand again

How are you doing?

I'm fine e-mail and we'll get your head out the sand again

hmm stop hijacking this thread please

So sorry

heavensis cant you see this woman is in dire straits

Go to a nice over 40s troll nightclub, pull a younger troll

Have rampant troll sex, video it, post it on t'internet

Medallion man will see it and come running back for some of you good troll loving

Who needs dear deirdre

wow i thought most of you were guardian readers
not the sun heehee

It was very insensitive of me desperateSCOUSEwife,and i do apologise to MiriamS for hi jacking her thread.