I'm going to cool off - help me stay strong!

[TambianLoco]

Madly in love with a guy who, for want of a better word, has some strange ideas about moving too fast and priorities.

Basically, we were together a while and then we decided the time was right to meet my kids. We did this, they got on great - yet soon afterwards he tells me he'd like to tell his mum more about me but he doesn't feel like he knows me well enough yet (but we know each other well enough for him to meet my kids??)

He's putting off me meeting HIS kids, yet he wants to move in together. Won't that be a problem when it comes for the kids to stay over???

Basically, he wants to rush some things, and dawdle on others and it seems his priorities and ideas are all messed up. I think I need to cool off.

How do you do that when you're in love with the guy???

(yes I'm a namechanger and have posted about him before, keep changing name as don't want to be traceable as I'm easily recognised in rl)

Have you told him how you feel?

That's really weird!

Who puts up the finances for this relationship?

Can I ask why does he want to move in with you?does he not have his own place and will he be contributing towards living with you financially?, sorry but Red Flags are glaring you in the face you need to find out more why he does not want you to meet his kids but make the move in togehter , please be careful there is alot at stake her for you and your kids, good luck.

Sorry - didn't want to post and run but something came up at the front door.

I think it's explainable if he's looking for some sort of security or bolthole, emotional, financial or whatever, in you and your DCs. (He pretty well has to meet them if he's thinking of moving in with you but keeping you apart from the rest of his significant people provides a cordon sanitaire for him from the rest of his life.)

What is his general situation ?

It's all on his terms isn't it.
I would sugest not moving in together yet until he feels he knows you well enough to be introduced to his mother and DC's

What is the benefit to him to move in?

Think l would step back a bit until he decides just how well he knows you and you decide just how well you want to know him