after your DH/DP left, how long did you wait to date someone new

[mistressmiggins]

I mean if you were left, not if you left if you see what I mean.

just interested - not from my point of view - I am no where near ready to even think about dating as inspite of everything, I am still in love with my husband (or certainly the man I married)

I know of someone who was left in Dec and is already dating

I just dont feel I will ever trust someone enough to date again - now I have 2 children to consider, I dont think I would trust someone not to leave again

yes i read that its a month for every year - thats only 10 mths for me

like I said, am not even looking but was just interested as some people seem to get straight out there

maybe like you desparateSCOUSEWife their marriage was dead anyway whereas for me, things only started going wrong last March & I put it down to PND....

this is funny though...I did log on to Yahoo Personals and have had 2 really funny "matches"
One was a bloke I work with (no way) and the other one was the bloke off "How to divorce and not screw up your kids" - the one who had 3 girls & argued all the time with his wife

if thats all there is, I'll stay single

exp buggered off with someone else 2 weeks before my due date, cried on the shoulder of the bloke i had dumped for him and within a month of dd being born we were officially a couple unfortunatly 18 months later he turned out to be a lying cheating scumbag to so i stayed single for 6 months it was great havent been single since i was 15!!! then i tried internet dating thing had a 3 week fling went to a friends wedding and met the love of my life! not very good at this single thing!

please can someone provide a link to glitterfairy,s list as i cant find it in archives and am interested in it.
thanks

I have searched too and cant find the thread think it was called its all over but cant seem to find it.

I am sure ggg can remember all of it and I can remember some of it. Mostly it was about being good to yourself.

Dont cry or beg/plead
Eat something wonderful every day
Get a new haircut

I will remember more later.

Nulnulcat you're a fast worker
Glitterfairy what is your list all about then?
Sounds like I need it. I seem to cry every time I speak to my ex...

18 months for a relationship. 5 days for a shag.

bluefairy i didnt want to give him the satisfaction of thinking i was sitting at home moping about over him!

ff LOL! I must find the bloody list! ggg where are you?

I am looking too but just cant find it

I printed it off somewhere but goodness knows where that is !!

FOUND IT !!!!

I will not cry/beg/plead/yell
I will be cool, dignified and distant
I will pamper myself
Myself and my children are the most important people in my world
I will eat at least one delicious thing per day
I will buy something I lust after and display it where it will make me smile (shoes did it for me)
I will have a to-die-for haircut

I deserve better. He will be sorry.

(not sure if the last line was in the original list or whether I added it for good measure )

off to print it off and stick it on the fridge

'Sometimes, being in love means our self-respect gets hurt. And sometimes, keeping our self-respect means have to say 'get lost''.

'you may have a fresh start anytime you choose, for this thing we call failure is not falling down, its staying down'

2 more inspirational statements said to me by fellow MNetterrs

Great list MM. Also like the wise words said to you by other Mnetters, particularly the get lost bit!

Hi MM. What about cry a river, build a bridge and get over it!!

I like the list, don't think I've seen that before. May well stick it on my fridge.

I too don't feel ready to date (I left xh in Nov last year). But I am having great fun letting my x think I have a fantastic social life with multitudes of men! do you know it really winds him up .

hi BB
how are things?
If you're at a loose end tomorrow afternoon, do pop round
my mum & SIL will be here plus 2 kids (nephew is your DD's age)
you can have some birthday cake

p.s YOU were the one who said about failure - never forgotten that one

Hi m miggins, how are you doing, I am not to bad, still get the odd set back, but i manage to overcome it quicker than what i used to -so things must be getting better for me, althoough still think about ex a lot and question in my head why things went so badly wrong for us...

I to have thought about dating, but where do prople meet people, i met ex at a concert, after dumping my boyfriend that morning ( my brother took me to concert to cheer me up, we had to fight past security to get into venue - milton keynes bowl!!!) and it felt like we were meant to meet that night, sounds sad i know, and i never thought we would split...

I think you need to be happy on your own before you can meet someone new, its like you need to get to be a complete person on your own, otherwise they would just be filling the gap, you need to have no gaps to fill, dont know if thats makes sense but thats what counseller told me, thats what is needed to have healthy relationship, and you also need time to get over the shock and trauma of the last few months,

Its been 9 months today since i was dumped!!!! and i am starting to feel ready to met someone, but not desperate to, as i am quite happy on own, i also have same hangups about trust etc, i trusted him 1000% truly... how wrong was i...
I dont think there is much we can do about it, but i feel sorry for the next person i meet, i certainly wont be happy about them going away with lads like i was the ex,

I hope you are feeling ok, sounds like you have a bday there today so i hope you are enjoying day with your children x

mm,you will trust someone enough again although right now you'll undoubtedly find that hard to believe.

when dd father and i split up - mutual agreement(14 years ago) it took me 3 years before i dated someone else.

as you may or may not know dh left me in october and i have recently been asked out but declined because i just don't feel ready yet.