Husband

[halleberrysboil]

Does anyone else have a husband who seems to need meals cooking, washing cleaned and ironed, marital duties performed, and for you to be in awe of his every word, putting up with his grumpiness, swearing and bad moods, and still keeping the smile on your face at all times, enjoying all the sport he watches, while he is impervious to anything you might feel/want?

No, that is not a normal or desirable marriage.

Post in relationships and get some good advice if you dont want to put up with this any longer. I certainly wouldn't.

Look if your husband is such an arsehole then please post in relationships and get some proper help. But getting shitty with replies because they are being honest is not on. You posted in aibu therefore you asked for opinions and you have to accept that not everyone will say what you want to hear. Especially when you have such an offensive title (which I have reported btw-not on at all)

I think it fucking obvious what she means.
She is using special needs as a pejorative term.

So ciao yourself Hun. X

No because I married a man, not a farm animal.

wow op have reported your thread title.

Thanks Nailak, have a great day. I've asked HQ to change title tho.
We haven't really moved on from the playground here have we?
Apologies for any offence.

"Sorry for offending, I'll offend you some more"

Okaay.

Does he have any redeeming features?

If not, leave the bastard!

Meals cooked yes, but the rest he can do himself. And he really appreciates the cooked meals.

Does he have any redeeming features?

If not, leave the bastard!

Does he have any redeeming features?

If not, leave the bastard!

Your title is beyond offensive my oldest son who does have special needs and does struggle with understanding the feelings of others would never ever behave like that.

My ex behaved like that. That's why he's my ex :)

Well if you are not aware that describing someone as "special needs" when you are clearly referring to someone who has no learning difficulties and is simply a lazy entitled shit is fairly unacceptable to most people, you are right, YOU havent moved far from the playground.

Even schoolchildren are aware that the term "special needs" is not something that should be used in the context you have used it.

You should post in Relationships, OP.

What do you get out of the marriage btw?

thanks squeaky

you just saved me from deletion

"Marital duties performed"
Title aside, this is not a healthy relationship.

Playground? Riiiight.

And it's ciao, not caio. HTH

My sons ex GF kept using the phrase 'oh he's/she's special'
I explained to her it was offensive and she stopped.

She said sorry too, but she meant it.

Playground op? Really?

Title was a bit off OP, but think you've been told now.

You sound very unhappy sweetheart.

I'd be snipey and defensive if I lived with a man like you've described.

Yes, forget this thread, start again and post in relationships.

Lots and lots of lovely people on here will help you, honestly.

Ok, moving on from the special needs issue the answer seems to be that no, people dont have a dh like yours although some have xdh like that.

What are you going to do to address this?if you can't change the man...change the man...to someone better...

My ds has "Special Needs". He is the kindest, most gentle, loyal person I have ever known.

Your DH is an entitled selfish prick, not "special" at all. HTH.

Op.... So what are you going to do about your DH?

You posted in "Am I Being Unreasonable?"

Yes, you are being unreasonable to put up with that.

Was your thread title trying to be funny?

It's not and I'm reporting it.