Sorry this is longer than intended! I have a friend who I have known since about the age of 14. She's from North America and spent most of her teenaged years and early twenties split between there and the UK. What I'm trying to say is that we've always had reasonably long periods of little to no contact, but always came back to each other.
I've been with the same DP since I was 18 (I'm now 32). When he and I moved in together my friend was living in really substandard accommodation at her workplace. No heat, no inside toilet, damp and mould. She was of course always welcome at our house (very nearby) and she would pop in most days and if dinner was on she would have a portion. She was really stuck in a rut career and home wise :(
She then met a man who lived about 100 miles away. They hit it off (I don't particularly care for him but he's a nice guy). Since her career was going nowhere here and her home was literally a dump she decided very quickly (a couple of months into the relationship) to move away to live in his home town and find work there.
I was obviously sad to see my friend go but was happy that she'd found a way forward that didn't involve her freezing to death in a shitty house and that she'd be earning more money. For the next 18 months we spoke quite often on the phone and if I was over her way we'd meet up and she sometimes got the train here. She has met my 20 month DS about twice.
However they then decided to get married. We were invited but they had a no children wedding which was too far away to leave DS with someone here. So we didn't go. She told me that she completely understood and seemed fine. She called me once before the wedding (about 3 months ago) and I missed her call and she didn't answer when I called back.
Well since then I think we've been at stalemate. I saw her wedding pictures on Facebook. I sent her a congratulations text. I haven't called her. She hasn't called me.
Have I been ditched?