Jealousy problems with my friend

[Lovewearingjeans]

I have a friend who is one of my closest. She can get quite jealous of me and my life, the latest being my parents have said they would have children for a weekend so we can go away. And she posted about this on Facebook. Her life is difficult at the moment because she has a disabled daughter, and they are trying to raise money for a build to convert their house, so I do have sympathy for that. She has also been jealous of other friends I have gone out with, and not her. I honestly don't know what to do. Apart from come off Facebook.

I hate FB sometimes, but I have friends all over the world and keep in touch with them that way. It probably isn't enough of a problem to share on here tbh. Just wanted different viewpoints, which I certainly got!
Feeling slightly happier than I did earlier. I know she is having a totally shit week, and doesn't mean what she says. Any suggestions for raising £46,000 would be grateful! (our target)

What a horrible poster who said you sounded like a bitch! Actually you sound like a bitch yourself with your post!

By the sounds of it, just sounds like she is down and maybe feeling a bit resentful of other people's good stories, perhaps if she is really struggling. The only thing I can suggest is just to carry on doing what your doing, offering all the support you can and gently making her aware that your always there for her :)

What a horrible post to call you "a bitch"

Says more about her than you OP. You sound like a great friend.

How sad that people have to vent their frustration on FB. That really was unpleasant when you do so much for her.

Just because you enjoy life and it goes well, don't feel guilty!

I kind of want to defend Karma. I may be wrong but I imagine (like me) she has a disabled child or at least a bit of a shit life in order to empathise with your friend.

Okay, she made assumptions about your friend - and you, which you later refuted, but she did accept that she might have read it wrong in her second post. I think she used the words 'sound like' and 'a bit of' a bitch on purpose.

Other people have made assumptions that your friend was 'ranting on', 'jealous', 'venting' when unless I missed it you've said very little of what she actually said on facebook.

There was a thread on sn a while back where lots of us admitted that yes, we felt, in our lowest moments, that we'd been dealt a fucking bad deal in life - we're poorer, more restricted, more knackered and more stressed than we would have been if we hadn't had a disabled child, however much we may love them. It does jar a bit when you read about the life you might have had and see happy holiday pictures. I think that's the side of things that Karma was trying to put across.

Obviously you're a great friend OP. So - tell her she hurt you, hear her response and I'm sure you'll move on from this.

We have moved on. Usually I let things and comments roll off my back. Ironically posting on here made me feel worse than the original Facebook thing. So what have I learnt, not to post on Mumsnet!

Some people are so insecure (and I would suggest the earlier poster who called you a bitch is guilty of the same thing) that see anyone else's good fortune as a personal attack. They constantly compare themselves to others and decide they have got the shitty end of the stick. They are pessimists with a negative outlook. If you have a nice home or go on a foreign holiday they seem to think it dropped in your lap rather than being earned. If you have a helpful family and they don't, they resent it. Mention money and they think you're 'rubbing their face in it'. Odd but there you go.

Do post again on MN. :) You have to have a thick skin sometimes but all life is here and it can be quite fun.