Hardly any sex since dd was born

[jofeb04]

My dd is 6months old now, and since ive been suffering with SPD (still am) and ive got pnd, we havent been having sex. Im still in alot of pain with the SPD, so i suppose i couldnt even be comfy.
When we have tried, the whole area hurts badly, as soon as im in pain, my dh does stop.
However, it does not bother my dh. Hes perfect about it. However, it does bother me. I keep on thinking why stop "just" cause of the pain (pain can be pritty intense), and as im not in the mood often (pnd), i try to block out the pain.
My dh is fine about him, it doesnt bother him at all and all he wants is me to be back to normal, being able to walk without pain etc. Hes not even bothered about sex.
Why am i bothered so much?

6 months is no time at all, relax, don't think about it, don't worry about it.

We've only had it twice since DD2 arrived 14 weeks ago.

He's afraid of my pill failing and having another baby. He loves the girls, but he never wants another child. He wanted a vasectomy, but the NHS says he is too young (he's 28).

also, if it's any reassurance, just look at how many other posts in here are about basicaly the same thing,be it lack of desire, physical inability, or of course rubbish husbands

Thx for your replies.
Expat, thats the same as us really, we're only 24 and 26, and the doctor doesnt want to know.
Anyway, my DH isnt bothered about it, he says our relationship is more than that and we've got plenty of years for sex!! :)

that's what DH says! he's perfectly happy to wait. he truly wants the vasectomy. his dad had one after he was born (he's the 2nd) and was so pleased with it.

these pills have made me break out in cystic acne on my chest that hurts, so i think i'll quit taking them.

i don't want to use the coil - too many potentials for side effects w/the Mirena and the copper one - longer periods? NO thanks!

Have you tried the impant? Ive had it now for two months, its long term (3yrs)and I havent had my monthly since ive had it in!!
Also been told be doc its the safest contraceptive until we get older!!

jofe are you getting treatment for the PND and SPD? that's clearly the root of the problem. when you are back to normal with them, then maybe your libido will return.
no-one could possibly expect you to have sex if you are in extreme pain

Thanks HS,
My dh agrees with you about the pain, is main concern is to get back to normal.
Im on all sorts of tablets for the pain, and ive been getting treatment for the PND, its been a month now, and feeling pritty good. Its the pain that really gets to me

I can really relate to this. I had a badly stitched episiotomy and it has literally taken years to heal. It hurts much less now, but this is 4 years on. I thought it was going to be like this forever but it has healed. I agree that it will take more than 6 months.

I'm a bit concerned that your doctor isn't willing to help you out though. I had a similar problem with a SHO I saw who assured me I was not in physical pain, it was all in my mind!!!!

The tablets im on is Tramadol, they are so strong, i cant take them during the day, cause of the drousiness, and co-codamol doesnt do anything for me!