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falling out with DH

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liverLadyLass · 25/09/2012 10:09

I hate argueing with him, but I need to stand my ground I think?
we went away for the weekend with his brother and sis in law to our caravan, all was going well untill the last night,
my sis in law had asked if I'd fancied the bingo, and we'd went, I won a hundred and twenty quid so I was made up and rushed back to give it to him, I was going to pick a bottle of wine up on the way back but waited in case they wanted beer,
only after getting back the electricity had tripped as his brother had too much on so DH said to his brother he could go back to the show club as it was him who blew the electricity, he didn't want to, so I'd said I'd go and I could pick up a bottle of wine whilst I was there,
I was told no?
I asked why?
he said because we now what your like?
I was too shocked and confused to even reply to that?
I felt so angry and embarrassed in front of his brother and sis in law,
exactly what am I like Fgs, what in hell is he applying?
I now if we talk its going to blow out of poportion,
I texted him to see if he's working late and he doesn't now yet? childish gitt,,
I think because we were running short and his brother wasn't putting his hand in his pocket had something to do with it but that does not excuse what he said?
am I over reacting here?

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garlicnutty · 27/09/2012 10:51

Thanks for the explanation. So he takes the piss out of the way you talk?
Putting somebody down for what they 'are', like the way you talk or your looks, is classic bullying. It's completely disrespectful and is intended to hurt.

So he tries to talk like you - and gets it wrong.
He demands an apology for something he knows you didn't do.

Does he sound completely sane to you??!?

wannabedomesticgoddess · 27/09/2012 10:56

Have to agree with garlicnutty. He doesnt sound sane. Its all very weird. Its like he has this whole version of you in his head thats totally different from reality.

Mocking you like that is not on. What do you get out of this relationship?

liverLadyLass · 27/09/2012 12:11

I feel he's sane,
however I see him very insecure and controlling and he's got the blinkers on and can't see it, or it being a problem of his,
little things like not likening me doing my hair as I took too long,( half an hour) hed asked me if i really needed to do it? and he would stand over me hurrying me up, causing me to panic and end up in a sweat, after me standing up to him and telling him there was no way I was letting myself go for him, or anyone, after a while it stopped..,
I feel this will be the same thing, standing my ground and hope he understands.

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wannabedomesticgoddess · 27/09/2012 12:25

But you shouldnt have to.

You should be able to live your life without having to stand up to him.

liverLadyLass · 27/09/2012 16:47

I now,
only I don't now how else to deal with it Hmm
I've no intension of leaving him because of this I just want him to realise and then we can move on,
I'm not sure if that's right but I'm struggling to now what else to do?

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