Has Anyone Been to Relate on their own?

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Am going to relate without my partner as he thinks its a waste of time. Anyone else been on their own and what did it do for you?

Hi, not been to Relate as such but to a relationship counsellor- when my dh had an affair with a work colleague.For me at the time it help me explore the mase of fellings i was experiencing so that they did not overwhelm me and become destructive to our relationship.
Eventually he too went to see someone on his own- we did not do much counselling together as it happened rather felt that exploring what was going on in oueselves first then trying to express those feelibgs- once clear- to each other helped us get through a traumatic time.
It helped me realise I was a strong person and that I had choices to make and that I had control of my life- I chose to stay with him and work at it. I went to see the counsellor for a good few months, it helped me through the bad time but also learn more about myself for the furture.
Remember it is a strength not a weakness to seek this sort of help when there is a problem- the bury your head in the sand approach (that most men take) does not make the problem go away it just builds resentment. i'd say if you feel you need some guidance go for it- I felt so much better talking to a professional outsider- you must be honest though! good luck.