He doesn't want anymore children I do, there's future is there ?

[AngelaD]

I know i'm going to sound like a selfish bitch but I'm sorry i can't help it.
DH has had a vasectomy without consulting me he just wnet ahead.
I thought I'd talked him into a reversal but the truth is he just doesn't want anymore children and wants to go back to University instead.
So basically he's totally gone back on the discussions/life we planned together we had when we were engaged.
I know things change and people change but this isn't something I can let go :(

I am going to be really blunt here and say that I don't think there is much hope for a relationship in the long run when such an important decision was made without any consultation with you. Shows a total dostreagrd for your opinion. I would not have been able to deal with that at all. DH just never would have considered taking such a step. Sorry.

Crikey!!
Had you no idea????

How many kids do you have?

Good god anglea, I am with Mears. A huge breech of trust and notone I coudl forgive.

Sorry i was typing so fast i've not been clear, he did tell me it was happening but that was exactly what it was telling me, not discussing.
We have two healthy children, one is my daughter from my first marriage and another with him.

Still not good enough - he didn't discuss it with you. Too big a decision for a couple just ofr one to be told by the other.

Mind you, a colleague of mine's husband did that after she had their first son. He didn't tell her that he was planning it. Told her after the event. Their son is 27 years old and they are still together.

hmm. i'd say you need to see a counsellor straightaway.

Me or him or both ?

Both! There is something very wrong in a relationship where one party makes such a huge decision without any discussion with the other.

I do not think I could forgive such a massive betrayal