I have a female relative who is very difficult to spend time with.
She lives nearby (kind of) and often wants to meet up. She lives alone and is lonely. I like her and she is a family member after all, but?
-She will either be overwhelmingly loving, or aloof and cold towards me. There is no inbetween. She can turn in an instant if something offends her.
-She is offended by everything. Even if I?m trying to be really nice and polite, she will find a fault in what I said and will suddenly be angry.
-She holds grudges easily
-She bribes people with random gifts, then ask them for a favour
-She will blurt out really offensive opinions about people and will often tell me I need a makeover because I?m not good-looking enough.
- She is constantly talking about things that are important to her (her work, TV shows she follows, lesser known celebrities) like everyone else knows all the details too. If I don?t, and ask something, she becomes offended and angry.
-Seems to have no awareness of her behaviour and how it affects people
I'm a real whimp but everyone else seem unable to handle her too.
Is there a word for this type of behaviour, and how do I deal with it?
I feel sorry for her because she is lonely and seem to mean well, but it?s impossible for me to actually spend time with her without getting hugely stressed out.