in -laws - can't live with them

[charmkin]

can't shoot them in the head

Another bossy sil, silly bitch of a mil, bury head in sand dh and another strained family gathering the events of which I could accurately predict now cos it's always the same.

How do you rise above crappy in-law situations?

If any of these people were friends I would have dropped them years ago. But because they are family I have to put up with it.

Don't want to rock the boat or create bad feeling. But one of these days my fake smile is gonna crack and I'mm gonna tell them all what I think grrrrrrrrrrrrr

ok
rant over
sorry

Charmkin,

Rant away, it may help somewhat.

Can sympathise, your situation is not dissimilar to my own except for the fact I do not have a SIL (thankfully due to both BIL and my brother being without partners).

Have no easy answer to this but would suggest you see them as little as humanely possible and keep visits short. Lots of small talk and tell them as little as possible about what is going on in your own home.

My MIL is a shrew like controlling character, my FIL is mainly harmless but useless and my BIL (who is 42 and still lives with them) is, "knows everything and knows nowt" according to the Yorkshire saying.

Would like someone like Raj Persaud to study them and their dysfunctional behaviour for a week, they would be an excellent case study for him.

Dh also buries his head in sand when it comes to his Mother (FIL however, does get a lot of scorn). She can do no wrong in his eyes. It's all due to the propoganda that she's fed them all these past years.

My MIL is not currently speaking to Dh, as she was talking about me in the pub to her 'friends' who told DH. He went down to their house, had it out with her, she denied everything, saying she doesn't like me as I stop her seeing the kids, (I never have) and that we are ungrateful for xmas gifts etc...

She hasn't saw the kids since December. SIL is another sad sad cow whos face I'd love to slap with a smelly wet fish she has a 90ft pole up her arse...