Hubby has had a hard time recently.,,

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How do you show you care when oh needs it most?
When they are flat on their arse what do you do to pick them up??

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Depends what's wrong OP.

Offer a sympathetic ear and some time together to unwind? Being gentle and close with each other is very stress relieving. Tell him you care. Ask him what he needs? Does he want to talk about it or just just know you are there for him?

Hope things pick up soon for him.

Have been there a few times recently. Sorry to hear you are too.
Listen. But sometimes I guess he doesn't want to talk?
Staying positive yourself, but realistic. Don't make light of how tough things may be for you/him.
And a good old fashioned hug, followed by beer/wine/whisky .
Hope things get better.

Watching with interest. I'm in the same position. So far I am sticking with being patient, a good listener, encouraged him to go see the GP, cooking good food, trying to get him to take it a bit easier. It's very hard.

Doing things you both enjoy, maybe plan a really nice 'treaty' night in, nice meal, bottle of wine, funny dvd? Just to demonstrate you're on his side...

Being male I can relate to this and answer it from
My perspective. I have had some periods of feeling down and have ha very high stress levels relating to my job and death of my dad.

I personally would like my DW to listen to me when I need someone to listen but not push me to talk when I don't want to. I would like her to know when to give me a breather from the stresses of life and not expect it back on a "well I looked after the kids for 2 hoursnow it's your turn"basis
I would do the same for her unconditionally if needed.

I would like her to try and take some of the stress away by offering solutions to the problems and not just expecting me to carry on in the stressful world I live, I would like her to lower her living standards for a while if finances could become tight without being asked to.

Obviously I don't get all of this all of the time but some of these might help your partner.

Thank you all.
It's a tricky one I suppose.
Dh has been abroad due to visa issues for 11 months, and I couldn't go to live with him as ds is an ill child in and out of hops with feeding problems so he is now tube fed. That effects him. My health effects him too.
He worries a lot as his family can't cope with the responsibilities there.
His parents are both unable to do anything due to disabilities and he has younger brothers and sisters too. They live in a family house with other relatives so should manage ok.
He was here after the birth of ds and had a hard time, I guess he stressed that he's leaving his family to come here to what happened the last time. I had pnd and I was knackerd with ds. Hubby arrived a month late again due to visa. This time it's a settlement visa so he's here for good. I want him to feel welcomed.
We aren't in our own place yet, with my parents atm as I don't work therefore no income to get a place before hr comes.

Hth to get a few more ideas out of you all.
Maleview dh isn't really a talker as he's never had anyone to talk to (before we got together)
He is slightly better now but would rather chat to his sister as he thinks he's stressing me out and I have enough on with ds( his opinion)
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