Just been looking at old messages from boyfriend - feeling a bit depressed

[BigFatBloater]

I first came into contact with boyfriend on Plenty of Fish back in April. We spoke lots on there and then on facebook and via text. Arranged to meet a few times but something always went wrong and we didn't end up meeting until July. Well, my phone went a bit funny earlier and took me back to those very first messages in July. Seemed funny reading all that back, telling each other about ourselves and being all nice and well behaved

Then I read the messages from July. When we first met, head over heels, whirlwind romance - all day texts going into the early hours of the morning - all sweet things such as "you're amazing" and "can't wait to see you again xxxx" etc.

Now, we've been together since that first meet in July. Lots of happened since then, many cinema trips, many nights together, lots of laughs, lots of drunken conversations, lots of sex, lots of cuddles, weekends away - we've done it all.

So, I came back to recent texts from him. Gone are the "can't wait to see you xxx" texts and the "you're amazing xxx" texts and in place of them are just general chit chat texts "what you upto?" "bored, lunch soon" etc.

Sounds daft but I feel like we've "lost it" already

We do see each other a lot, 3/4 times a week but isn't it a bit early to be settling into that "comfy" stage where we don't need to "try" anymore?

Is he losing interest or is it normal for texts to calm down and represent the real world after a couple of months?

I have a tangential question for you: why your choice of username?

Hello OP I guess some people aren't very "hearts and flowers", tbh if you two are seeing each other and enjoying time together, do you really need that extra reassurance?

It's not all one way traffic you know! Do you still send them kind of texto him?

Two months is quite quick to be over the lovey dovey crap for me

Two months is kinda quick to be having that lovey dovey crap imo. - surely it's the getting to know you stage before you're sure of your true feelings for someone? Anyway, I digress ...

As another poster said, surely it has to be 2 way traffic. What are your texts like to him? Do you still send lovey dovey ones only to be met with a reply informing you of what he's had for lunch.

To be honest, as long as regular contact is still there and you have a great time together there is only so many times you can text someone telling them how amazing they are before it becomes a bit tedious and insincere sounding.

Have you posted about this before?

Sounds familiar.

Ask him, would be my advice. Ask how he feels your relationship is going. Also, how does he respond if you send him something lovey-dovey? And together since July? It is very early days anyway