Is DP cheating?

[Vercetti]

I can help feeling my DP of 12 years is cheating. It's only a gut feeling but you should trust you're instincts, right?

Longer hours, secret emails etc etc. something just doesn't add up and my stomach is in knots. I don't want to go snooping as this could cause more problems than it fixes.

Any ideas what I should do?

I'd go snooping tbh.

But if it's nothing I could destroy our trust.

Is there a ligitimate reason for the longer hours? what do you mean by secret emails? have you read them? Can you phone him at the office when he is supposed to be working late?

I agree with you, id be very careful before you start snooping. Why do you have the gut feeling though.

Your trust is already destroyed - you're on an Internet forum saying you suspect he is cheating and youre considering trying to read his emails and text messages. Doesn't sound like a perfect trust situation to me!

Please be logical an just take Ronald Regans advice - trust but verify. Intuition is a powerful thing. And if you're wrong it will actually reinforce your trust not damage it.

IME if it feels as though there's something wrong, there usually is.
I'd snoop if I were you.
If you find nothing, you will be reassured and he need never know.
If you find something - well it's heartbreaking, but better to know.

Good luck - it's a horrible situation to be in.

If you snoop so carefully that he doesn't find out, how will it destroy your trust?
But how else will you quieten this nagging feeling?