This is basically 'should I be the one to apologise?'
There was a situation I was involved in, my family wanted me to do something, I couldn't do it, it was a very personal thing.
Anyways, I'm not debating the fact that I could have done more in the above situation but I did what I felt was right at the time.
My mum said that she was a little disapointed to me and I could see her side but had my reasons.
But my problem is that my aunt had a birthday party, she never invited me (as i have small kids and don't drink)
So, when she drinks, she DRINKS and has a very long history of nastyness and violence when drunk.
When everyone left she messaged me on facbook at 4 am ( 
) saying 'what i did was wrong, she will never forgive me, don't you dare show your face again' blah blah blah
and some really nasty stuff about my husband 
I didn't retaliate,
I ignored it for a while then simply txt her teling her that our relationship had come to an end as the things she said were unforgivable.
We have had NO contact for about 4 months now.
But my gran is laying it on thick to me saying my aunt is devestated, shes going through a tough time (we used to talk alot about our problems to each other)
and she misses seeing the kids and photos of them ect (i deleted her from FB so she couldnt send me nasty messages ... i only have 15 people on my FB, family only)
My gran made me feel really bad, and I do miss my aunt.
But I still feel that she should be the one apologising to me??
I've no problem with her airing her views to me in person respectfully... but drunken swearing messages at 4am??
But maybe shes just respecting what I said and daren't try to contact me even to apologise??
What do you think?
We usually have a childrens halloween party and I wouldn't not want to invite her DS, but it would be so awkward?!
WWYD?