Been seeing someone I like but think it's about to end

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Met someone online nearly a month ago, I was a bit unsure at first but we got on really well on the first couple of dates, and he's come over to mine a couple of times, and now I actually do quite like him.

I've tried to stop myself liking him too much, and just viewed it as a casual thing, but it's not really working. He's really nice, said he likes spending time with me etc. but I just have a feeling it's going to end. I'm seeing him middle of next week, and I'm feeling really nervous/anxious.

Not sure if I'm just being insecure, I've been single for nearly 3 years now, or if he just doesn't like me that much. This whole dating this is a nightmare, I was happy on my own but he's reminded me what it's like to have someone.

Not sure what I'm trying to say, just wanted to get it off my chest but don't want to talk to anyone about it in rl. Sorry for the rambling.

Do you think hes going to end it?
Has he actually given any indication of that?

Last time I saw him he said he thinks it's unlikely we'll end up together, not in those words but that was the gist. Not sure if that counts though, most of what he says is positive.

I know exactly how you feel. Same position. I'm trying to just take things as they are but keep over analysing everything, whether it's the tone of his voice or if he doesn't text! I don't know what the rules are anymore but my advice which i am trying to follow myself is to enjoy the here and now. If things don't work out you know you will be fine on your own. We must try not to second guess situations that may not even happen..

Glad I'm not the only one! I know what you mean about over analysing everything, I seem to spend all my time thinking about every little thing he said and convincing myself he doesn't really like me. I really need to get a grip!

He said it's unlikely you'll end up together (in so many words)? Why? In what context? Are you not good enough for him? Tell him if that's the case, he's right and he can fuck right off, the cheeky sod.

He didn't say he doesn't want us to end up together, just that it's unlikely we will, I think it was to do with the age difference (he's 15 years older). It wasn't said in a mean way, and was part of the conversation we were having at the time. Fwiw I don't think we'll end up together either, I'm just not ready for it to end yet.

If you met this one online there are plenty of others online. If you felt ambivalent about him you could use him as a dinner-date and shag-buddy and no harm done. But if you feel strongly about him you're only compromising yourself by sticking around hoping he'll suddenly feel the way you do. You've only been seeing him a month, he's saying there's no future in it, so better end it than waste any more time.

Go with the flow and enjoy. Perhaps he is a little afraid that you might want someone younger and is realistic you might trade him in some time in the future. You say you like him and he likes you, make the most of it.

I'm quite happy for it to just be casual and not develop into anything serious, I just don't want him to turn around and sat he doesn't want to see me anymore because I'm really enjoying what we have going on.

I think I need to stop thinking about it so much.

Why are you feeling so attatched when you've known him less than a month? You need to be sure it's a relationship with him you want, or just any relationship. To me it sounds like it's the latter. Maybe give the internet dating a break til you feel less vulnerable? It's not a good starting point.

You could be right, I've been single nearly three years and was quite happy on my own, or so I thought. He's reminded me what it's like to have someone, maybe I'm not so happy on my own.