Left h this morning

[onthecausemustgo]

Things haven't been right with us for a long time, h is uncommunicative, only talks when he wants sex and shows no interest in the dcs.

I have given h repeated warning that it is unacceptable and the usual reaction is to gaslight and deny, then apologise and agree to change a fortnight later. Then lather, rinse, repeat.

For the sake of my sanity I cant take it any more. I am pg and cant afford this extra strain.

He has gone to stay with his mother.

For weeks I couldn't stop crying, now I'm just numb.

Unmumsnetty hugs welcome

(((((hug))))))

Well done and would a slap on the back be more MNny than a hug? :) Have you got friends and family there for support?

How dare you ask for a hug! You can have a manly pat on the shoulder, and be grateful.

Sounds like you did the right thing. If being sent to live with his mother doesn't make him swear to change his ways and really stick to it this time, with another child on the way as well, there's no hope.

Hope this is the shock he needed to wake up to his life.

Hope you get the head space and time to recouperate from all the emotional trauma you've been through.

Is couples counselling something you would be interested in?

Thank you very much for both the hugs and the manly pats!

Got my sister on the end of the phone and will go to see a close friend later.

I have tried the counselling route but he simply will not communicate.

I am pretty sure this is it this time. I am essentially a single parent anyway

So sorry OP for the crap you are going through. Here's a big

It sounds like you've made the right decision- crying all the time isn't going to help your stress levels and you need to put yourself first- he clearly isn't.

Of course you have made the right decision.

He changes back after two weeks because he doesnt really want to, and it isnt important to him.

You know you will be OK being a single parent gets so much bad press when actually being stuck in a miserable marriage is far far worse

Cry all you like there is something in tears that helps release stress

My top tip is ask for help from all and sundry dont be afraid to admit you want support

Hugs from here too

So sorry OP. I don't know if this will come out right, but as you say - you're essentially a single parent anyway. You can have the pleasures that go with that, without the angst of being in a relationship with somebody who just doesn't want to be a parent/partner.

A hug for you from me too. :)