Things have not being going well with DH for awhile.
I feel there is a lack of respect and a lack of communication. I always try and make some form of effort of being interested in his life by asking how his day has been, whether anything interesting has happened at work etc. He never asks me any questions about how I am, or what I've been up to. If something has happened to him, either a good or bad thing, he will talk to me for ages about all the ins and outs of it and I will listen. If something happens to me and I want to talk about it, he is very dismissive and does'nt want to know.
Often, if I have one of life's "AIBU" style incidences whereby someone (whether someone in a shop, a doctor or whoever) says something that is a bit off - like I don't like their tone or something, he will always say that I'm being too sensitive or make out as though it was nothing. I find his response to these situations really undermining and makes me feel like I'm imagining that someone has been rude to me. I know that I am not being massively sensitive as when I then tell other people about said occurrences, they agree with me, and things that have happened to me that I have told DH about have then happened to him and he is not happy about it either.
Another issue is this. I've always been quite a shy, reserved person. I have always been the sort of person with a handful of really close friends as opposed to having 8 million mates. I am actually totally comfortable with this, as i feel I have really great support from some really lovely friends. I used to have a bit of complex about this, as I personally think there is generally a lot of pressure for people to come across as very extravert and to have a large social group. As I have gotten older, I just think each to to their own- I'm quite happy so why would I change? DH is very sociable, has a lot of old school, uni and work friends. Describes himself as a social animal etc. This is fine too - different strokes for different folks - but he always seems to be very competitive about it, showing off about how many friends he has, telling me I have NO friends, that I have problems etc. I used to sort of agree with him, but the last year I feel like I'm coming into my own and have realised I am actually alright, having a few friends does not make you a weirdo and if fundamentally I am happy with my life then why should I change. I don't like the insinuation that he makes that I'm so below him. He will often only raise this issue if we are having an argument about something so I think he is just trying to put me down.
There is no affection in the relationship, I would love to come home to a warm hug and a listening ear. I think this relationship is not going to last the way it is going at the moment. Does anyone have any views?