crush on soneone at work- is it normal?

[waitingtobeamummy]

Ok, I was going to name change but if I did I would chicken out.
I love my husband so much, we have been through a really shit yr (infertility, fall outs with family, emergency op) .
This year I started a new job where I work with a lot of men. I've lost a lot of weight and feel confident in myself for the first time in my life.
I'be worked closely with a man for the past few months and I have developed a crush on him. We are both very flirty with each other and now I am coming up with excuses to go and see him/email him etc. I spend time daydreamibg about him.
I love dh and we have a fab time together/great sex life but it is always very safe. He is the only man I have ever been with and I am disgusted in myself for having this crush. It would destroy him to ever here this and I need to stop it hut I can't stop thinking about the other man.
I am a dreadful person :(

I wouldn't be so complacent and I think advising yourself to 'just enjoy it' is very dangerous indeed, as is flirting.

Flirting communicates availability; that there is a chink in your armour that would get wider if he pushed the boundaries a bit.

What usually happens during all the obsessing and imagining is that eventually you give yourself permission to have 'just a snog' if the opportunity comes up.

But by that time you're already hopelessly addicted and it's much more difficult to break it off when it reaches that point.

If there are 50 steps on the run up to an affair, I'd say some of you are already halfwhere there.

Be careful, stop flirting and be honest with yourselves. The only reason you're not telling your partners about your crush is not because it would hurt them, it's because you don't want anything or anyone to stop you.

Crushes are normal, understandable and forgiveable. I'm sure your partners have had them. Feeding them, enjoying them and flirting is dangerous though.

Thanks for your comment beth , I just wanted to defend myself a bit tho and say that as you said I now realise that crushes are quite normal, but surely the enjoyment if them is too?
I , as I said before, am a very flirty person and can hand on heart say that I have never (and I have been with dh for 11 years) used it to show I am "available" because I'm not. I was quite very drunk when I wrote my post last night , but I am not going to let it go any further. Partly because of the fact he does not know I exist but the majority because I love my dh toi much.