I cant fight anymore

[thesunshinesbrightly]

Im sick of fighting everyday about everything. Im sick of explaining where im going,who i spoke to,having to repeat converstations i have had,having to repeat myslef over and over, im sick of arguing if i step out my front door, im sick of constant phone calls and texts. Ive had enough,im tired and worn out.

Sounds like taking yourself out of the relationship is your best bet. It shouldn't be like this.

Bin him. You are not a slave or a pet or an object and you do not have to account for your movements like this. Can you leave? Do you have children with him?

I have tried,he phones me constantly waits outside my house. I feel suffocated i cant breathe. No luckly i dont have children with him.

That's stalking. You can contact the police and lawyers about that.

He doesn't have the right to a relationship with you.

If you have tried to end it and he hasn't taken no for an answer, there are the authorities who will make him listen.

Tell us a bit more-have you told people in real life, have you got support? How long have you been seeing him? The police will help you. Please think seriously about reporting him.

He is harassing you.

Do you feel safe?

But he hasnt hit me. He will not let me end it. He hides things from me and their is an up roar if i hide any details about myslef. He can argue with me all day give me the silent treatment but as soon as he snaps out of it i have to be happy too. Sometimes i think its better just to end it all.

It doesn't matter that he hasn't hit you. This is harassment and is an offence. You will be believed. We believe you.

He doesn't have to hit you for you to feel threatened and unsafe.

You do not need his permission to end it.

Please consider doing the following:

• change your SIM card and e-mail address
• do not respond to any contact he might make
• inform the police that you are being harassed/stalked
• if you see him anywhere and he tries to engage in conversation, say "I'm not interested" and walk on. Repeat the same phrase as often as necessary. Do not engage.
• call the police if he shows up at yours again. They will be able to react more quickly if you have already informed them of the ongoing harassemnt/stalking, as they will understand the situaiton and know your address.

I'm sorry you feel so low, but ending your own life is not the solution: ending this man's involvement in your life is the solution. It is possible,a dn you can do it. He will not let you alone of his own accord, so this is why you need to get tough by cutting contact and involving the police.

Good luck, be strong.

Thank you all of you, but i dont think im strong enough at the moment for all the trouble it is going to bring.i am so fed up everyday is a struggle. I dont even know why i posted i just needed to get it out some how, i told a friend and she said 'thats ok,least he doesnt hit you'.

Part of me hopes he will go off with someone else so i am free.

My friend was in a relationship like this. End it now before things get worse, he sounds a very troubled individual and that's not your issue You'll find the life you deserve.

You are strong enough, sweetheart.

Yes, it will bring trouble. But remaining unwillingly tied to such a troubled man will be much worse trouble for you. Much worse.

You deserve to be free of him and have a life on your own terms.

I'm not surprised you needed to get it out that you are being stalked and harassed.

Well done on writing it out here. You should now also be informing the police.

Your "friend" is wrong, this is not ok

If you look at this link, you'll see that Women's Aid list stalking/harassment and pressure tactics as signs of DV. In other words, exactly what is happening to you.

You're already dealing with a load of trouble, all on your own.

If you report what he's doing, he will be subject to the legal consequences of stalking & harassment.

Your friend has very low expectations in life if any man, as long as he doesn't hit, is better than none.

This isn't a relationship, it's a hostage situation.

Don't you deserve better than this?

You can get rid of him. The police will act. First, they will warn him off, and if that doesn't work, they will arrest him, and ultimately, if he still won;t leave you alone he will go to prison.

He has no rights over you at all. He's just a nasty little inadequate prick and you can be free of him, you have a right to be free of him and any trouble he gets into over the matter is all his own fault.