Sex after childbirth -issues

[ThisIsCrazy]

I am having a problem since the birth of my DD who is now 23 weeks old.

I had a vaginal delivery, then emergency surgery -manual removal of retained placenta, and stitches for a significant second degree tear they thought initially was third degree. So my body down there has been through a lot! At the start when we tried sex my perinium was sore and stinging as if the scar tissue was being stretched. It was so painful I couldn't do it because of the pain. Gradually we have worked on things and now penetration doesn't hurt. The problem now is I don't seem to have any sensation inside at all. I can feel my partner but it doesn't feel nice and doesn't feel bad, just doesn't really feel like anything IYSWIM?

Our sex life before DD was really good. I list interest when pregnant due to rough pregnancy. But now I'm worried our sex life will never be good again if I don't seem to have any sensation.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is it normal? I really hope it is going to pass but am worried this is what I'll be like forever!

nerves take a lot longer to heal than skin and muscle, you are still in early days. However, it is also possible that there may be a small collection of blood around the repair and it would be advisable to be checked by your Gp.

Go to GP but also try buying a kegel 8, can improve muscle tone down there.

Hi This, just wanted to reassure you - I had similar issues to you it sounds like, and it took a lot longer than I thought to get back into the saddle as it were! The internal scarring took a lot longer than I expected to really heal, I was very very aware of it although it wasn't painful. I think subconsciously as well, this was making me more tense so it wasn't as enjoyable? Not sure really.

I'm now nearly 11 months post-birth (3rd) and FINALLY I'm starting to feel like my old self. It might sound like a long time, but in the grand scheme of things it's nothing.

Hope things improve for you.

Hiya, I wouldn't worry. I think I was maybe a bit numb to begin with. Lucky me got the third degree - not tried that again. Have to say years on I get better sensations than I ever did before I had DS -though I can't say I remember the time it took for this to happen. All the same, would never have a vaginal delivery again - I still remember the agony and thinking that when I die I bet it will be less painful. Luckily my DS is fantastic and worth it and the sex is fab

Nerve damage can take up to two years to heal properly, massage your perineum with oil daily and try using a vibe on the area to stimulate blood flow.

Thanks for all the replies, will have to try relax more until things improve. Might have to get in touch with my GP too. Hopefully things will be better than before the birth...why do we put ourselves through it?? Actually, one look at my beautiful baby sleeping in her cot and its worth it!