My marriage is over. Where do I go from here?

[onthecausemustgo]

Haven't wanted to acknowledge this for a long time, but I think things are finished between me and not-so-d h.

He refuses to communicate, drinks too much, is always too busy for family events, spends all his time with his mates or watching the tv, and sleeps constantly.

I have had thorough discussions about all these things with him and every time he agrees to change then just goes back to how he was - that is completely disinterested.

I don't think I can carry on living like this.

Now, how do I pick up the pieces?

Sorry to say I think if your H is like this there will be no changing him. Your choice is put up living with him like this, or leave.

You've taken the bull by the horns, decided enough is enough and want a better life.

Your next step depends on your circumstances.

Are you married? Mortgage or rent? Working? DC?

And what support do you have in terms of friends, family, places to stay temporarily, etc?