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where could i go??(its long and mistakes, on phone)

7 replies

skiesmylimit · 13/09/2012 18:19

I am very sick of being treat badly, well not all the time. But every week with out fail H gets in a really bad mood and takes it out on me. Its mainly when he's tired but its not fair.

We have been getting on all week, then today when he got in from work, I new he was in a bad mood as his txt wernt the same as usual. Anyway, DS2 (5months) was screaming. I was trying to get on with my jobs as hed been fed and changed. H came in and started shouting because the baby was crying. He picked him up and took him upstairs into his cot and shut door, I had already tried that and I don't like him being left in his cot (just learnt to roll over)

Anyway, I said please don't put him in his cot, I've already tried that. So he said shut up, I then replied don't ever tell me to shut up again, so he said it again and told me to fuck off.

I went downstairs and cooked the dinner (which he didn't even say thanx for) and afterwards done dinner pots.whilst he slept on sofa.

He then said to DS1 (3years) that it was his bath time, DS was playing so he said wait a minute. Which H then started shouting really visciously towards DS. grabbed him and started taking him upstairs. DS was shouting me saying daddies hurting me. So I went to get DS to let H calm down, he shut the stair gate on me, and then pushed me and grabbed DS so I couldn't get him. DS was still shouting mummy. Anyway,m in the end he pushed me and hurt DS's arm.I got him away from H, then H started shouting abuse at me, saying some really nasty stuff, such as 'your really fucking me off, your a fucking bitch, I'm sick of you' and more.

Basically what I'm asking is where can I go. He won't leave, told me that I would have to leave with the kids. I have no money, nothing. I don't want to go to hostel or womens aid. Or anything like that. I have no family or friends who could take us in.

Sorry its long and mistakes, I'm on my phone.

OP posts:
BlackberryIce · 13/09/2012 18:26

Why don't you want to go to a hostel? They are fine! And you need to get your dc out of there.

LoveHandles88 · 13/09/2012 18:38

If anyone's behaviour was affecting my dc in this way, I don't think I'd care where I went as long as it was away from them.
Do what you need to for your dc.

izzyizin · 13/09/2012 18:39

You don't need to go anywhere. Your h has verbally and physically abused your ds and has verbally and physically abused you.

Report this incident to the police and let them deal with him.

In addition I would suggest you contact with Women's Aid www.womensaid.org.uk your earliest opportunity because your h is not going to change his ways anytime soon.

bushymcbush · 13/09/2012 18:39

If you have no money and no family or friend's to go to, a refuge is your only option. Why don't you want to? In your situation I'd go to one without hesitation, especially due to the dv he has committed to you AND your ds.

akaemmafrost · 13/09/2012 18:46

I would call the police right now and have him removed. It will get the ball rolling for assistance in keeping him out.

Doha · 13/09/2012 19:28

He hurt your DS--that is assault.
Get this man out of your house. Can you phone the police now and he will be made to leave.
Does your DS have any bruises/marks on his arms.

Tomorrow get yourself organised to keep him out

BlackberryIce · 14/09/2012 16:43

How you doing op?

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