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Going Crazy

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Ew72 · 13/09/2012 16:48

My partner of 19 years left me and out 3 children in January saying he doesn't love me anymore. Over a period of time he has rented a house - and furnished it. The children stay with him twice a week. I have asked him to come home several times telling him I love him and want to make things work but he is adamant he doesn't love me. I felt over the past month or so i was getting my head around things when he turned up at my door yesterday to tell me he has met someone else (and didn't want me to find out from anyone else). I feel like he has ripped my heart out - I feel sick all the time and cant eat. I spent all last night awake thinking about him and i feel like im going insane. I know i cant make him love me, but i want to know how can i stop loving him - i hurt so much

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ErikNorseman · 13/09/2012 16:52

Don't beg him to come back. I'm sorry to say but I would bet £££ that he met her before you split.

Ew72 · 13/09/2012 17:05

He said that he went on an internet dating site a couple of months ago, and met up with 3 women, and this 1 he really likes and is having a relationship with - I cant believe after 19 years together he can move on so quickly, when im dying inside.

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MadAboutHotChoc · 14/09/2012 07:41

I agree that OW was already around before he left Sad

You need to focus on detaching and rebuilding your life - friends, hobbies, work, training etc.

AnyFucker · 14/09/2012 07:47

He is fooling you about the timing, love

Accept that, and you will find it easier to accept he has treated you badly and your relationship was over for him long before it was over for you Sad

bubalou · 14/09/2012 10:51

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way, I can't imagine it.

All the advice on here will be easier said then done but when you are ready and have the strength will help you move on.

It's shit but I would also bet the OW was on the scene before.

Start to rebuild. Friends, family, your children. You can and will be happy again. He will soon realise what he is missing and when he does you will be strong enough to tell him it's his loss.

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