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New home, new friends, new me (sort of!)

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maymoon · 12/09/2012 22:14

Hi everyone, this is my first time posting so I hope I have the correct place.
This is prob a stupid thing to post about but for some reason it is kind of a big deal to me so thanks for looking.

I have never really had any friends as a teen or a adult. My parents divorced when I was 13 and even though I remained at my school my mum, sister and I moved away from the local area so was sort of left out of going out with friends after school. I never really made any friends at college and was quite happy with my own company and when I started work I made friends with people but it was only in work and never saw them outside of work.

I really don't know why I am distant with people, but I am now finding myself quite lonely now I am a SAHM and I have decided to do something about it! my DD is 16 months old and until 3 weeks ago I had never taken her to a playgroup- we did other things such as swimming, soft play, going to the local park, woods and zoo (she wasn't stuck inside all day!!).

In May Dh bought a fast food takeaway and has been working 15:30hrs- 03:30hrs he has had to sleep part of the day. We just moved house 5 weeks ago and I thought I would use this new start to make new friends. I went to the local playgroup and (made myself) chat to some other mums, the next week I was talking to the same mum and started to feel it flow a bit better. This mum has now invited us to her child's birthday and I have accepted the invite. As my husband is Muslim my DD has halal diet so no pork/jelly/jelly sweets. I don't want to seem rude to ask about food so shall I just bring halal sausages and jelly and explain?

I was also talking to another mum and we exchanged numbers and she said she would give me a text, this was last week and she was not at the playgroup this week should i text her or would it look desperate and if i do text what do i say?

Thanks for reading and sorry if it seems stupid

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dequoisagitil · 12/09/2012 22:21

Good on you for breaking out of your isolation, it's not easy to do.

I'd take halal party food and explain - no-one should mind and it means you're not putting anyone out asking for anything different.

And give a nice casual friendly text to the other mum. Smile

izzyizin · 13/09/2012 04:05

Take your own food to the party - and have a good time Grin

Send a text to the mum who was absent this week saying 'Missed you at playgroup - hope everything's with you'.

maymoon · 13/09/2012 09:28

Thanks ladies Smile

Glad you both say to just take food so hopefully it won't be seen as rude.

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izzyizin · 13/09/2012 11:10

It won't be seen as rude at all; quite the opposite as it will be obvious you've gone to some lengths to be a considerate guest. Take a few extra portions as other dc may want to have what your dc is having Smile

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