I can't be bothered to explain the previous problems as you'll be here all day and night. My boyfriend is the problem, but I want things to go back to normal, this shit has been going on for too long. Whenever I want to talk about a serious matter or im upset about something and I approach him and he says either "I dont want to hear it, ive heard it all before" "shut up, im not going to listen" or "theres the door, leave then". I think its his way of getting me to shut up, if he really wants me gone id be gone by now. but the problem is still there, so i cowardly sit there quietly and wanting to cry when im now thinking that i should stand my ground and put him in his place and hopefully he'll sort himself out.
He treats me like a bank, as i see anyway, because it was the same with his parents (which we still live with) if he needs money for anything, he'll ask but wont return the money when he can. Or he'll say "get me this" and pass over a item and then walk away. No please. No thank you. Again as he was like this with his parents. If that was my parents, id have to pay it back when i can, and i dont get everything i ask for. Which is completely fair!
I get no affection what so ever, no hug, no kiss, no holding hands, no saying I love you. If i try he sometimes pushes me away, when hes in a bad mood or needs to go to the toilet or something. But I neeeeeed affection. Again his parents have never shown it so im guessing he got it from them. But then again my parents show affection so I got it from them.
I understand alot has happened, and it may take some time to get back to normal or may not even get better, but I want to try things out because I want the old boyfriend back. Hes only been this down since he lost his job in Feb 2012. And when i was down, he constantly bugged me until i got better, and i wanna do the same for him. But when you bug him when hes annoyed he gets worse so you have to just leave him.
I treat people how I want to be treated, so with him, I buy a little treats now and then to make him feel better, leave little love or cheeky notes around, make him some nice tea so its ready when he comes back from college. Full body massages. All sorts. Once again ... I get nothing back, no sweet notes, no treats, no massages.
Oh and he does this thing where if a argument has happened, yes lifes to short to dwell on things, but he just forgets it and move on like nothing happened, no apoligises, again! His whole family does it. Whereas if it was my family, there would be apoligies and a hug.
I think theres some ways to sort this. 1. Leave (but I dont wanna think about that yet). 2. Put my foot down. 3. do what my friend said, stay as positive as possible, if you say hello in a nice way, and he snaps back, dont let it get to you, ignore it and stay happy, he may cheer up and come talk to you. Each time it'll get better and easier.
He was nothing like this before that why im hoping it'll get better if I say/show the problem. Instead of hoping he'll think the same as me. He doesnt realise its a problem. Sorry about the essay!!.