Have had terrible row with dh tonight. Long story short for four years have had a painting on wall my brother did, was copy of famous nude. We argued a lot over it as dh bit stuffy and thought innapropriaye but mainly as he and brother don't get on at all. Culminated in me destroying it one very bitter day. Regret it now but was very upset at family feud. Sounds dramatic I know but trust me long deep history between them.
So anyway I put up a couple of nudes of my own and he also felt better to have one thing else as we have ds1. Three years old and three months. I disagree completely don't see issue with tasteful nudity but he says his turn wants bloody landscape or whatever. Came home there was a clock there and he had taken my pics down.
This follows on from another disagreement about music. He likes electronic and I rock! He does most of drivin and says can't concentrate with my music on.
Essentially ended up saying totally different tastes and both feel other trying to impose their taste. He says solution is neutral where as I think bit of his bit of mine.
We got quite nasty with each other, years of pent up frustration I suppose. I told him he was repressed, he said my art was rubbish including picture I painted him when we got together.
Bad to worse and he was goin to leave or drive into a wall he said, or get divorce. I got v upset, he agreed to stay.
But nothing has been resolved really. I know every time we get int car there will be his music. I know we will get bloody landscape on wall.
But if we split up over this shit I would not want to play my music or look at my pictures, I would end up hatin them wouldn't I? They won't keep me warm at night!
Still, feel if he doesnt like my taste how can he like me. He was much more tolerant of our differences when we were courting. Since marriage and kids true colours come out I guess. Can't feign interest when living together.
This is in midst of tantruming child and new baby and failed house move and family issues I should add.
Aibu? Should i Back down as I have or am I settin a bad precedent. He took his clock down btw!