So I don't post much but I do read the relationship forum quite a bit, and I know I will get some good advice and opinions here.
Our back story is, married 10yrs 2 dc one teen and one under 10. Dc2 has asd and learning disability. We got the official Diagnosis a couple of months ago.
Dh has always had a hygiene problem and this evening has been the straw that broke the camels back. Basically we were asked would we like to attend a talk explaining the issues that asd kids may face. I had already had a few one to one sessions , dh didn't attend because of work ( my job is more flexible) and the evening sessions would cover most of what I had already gone over. So rightly or not I signed dh up for the evening session hoping that we would be able to get a sitter and I could go too, but that dh would have a chance at least to listen to an expert on the subject. He was a bit put out tbh at the thoughts of "having to go".
Anyway he came in from work , dinner on the table as soon as he sat down. Meaning he had just under a hr after eating in which to get ready, I left it about 20 mins or so and said I left your clothes on the bed, and clean towels in the bathroom, I hadn't finished my sentence when he told me he was going as he was, bearing in mind he works a very physical job and his uniform is scruffy even when clean. So I said "but you really need a shower" he just tutted and said I'm only going to sit and listen to someone talk!
At this stage I feel like his mother, I did try to explain its about respect and it takes 10 mins out of your day to wash, and I pointed out that last winter in -degrees and no heading I still managed to wash every day!
I'm really sorry this is probably all over the place but I'm on my phone and can't scroll up to check it over. An I over reacting?