Is this domestic violence??

[onanotherday]

Long story..but a year of DH having a breakdown, arrested for self harm and drinking a few times, the DC and I spent months worrying and caring ... but he moved out a few times then came back and things began to improve. Then walked again...found out yesterday abot OW...so a few exchanges on the phone and he said he wouldn't see me at the moment as he would 'slit my throat'...I know its a hollow threat, but still. I have kept access for kids when he wanted etc.. should I ignore this or seek advise. I know I've pi**ed him off with texts and emails but stupidly thought we needed to talk. DD was very distressed lately about the whole thing and I tried to talk to him about it but he says she just needs time...confused what to do, if anything.

Report it to the police. If you are separated and he is self harming and now threatening you but you have children together then you need to report it in order to give you and the children the best chance of being safe so that the authorities have the full picture.

He is not self harming, is 'better' and I don't think drinking either. So not sure how much is just anger at being found out, having denied it all summer. I don't want to creat a drama from a threat in the heat of the moment..I have lost it a few times with him this year, not pretty, but under extreme provocation...

You have to take seriously the fact that he has threatened to slit your throat, this is not normal behaviour and reporting it would not be you making a fuss.

Thanks, I think I'm just scared he will try and play the you are an unfil mother card, as he has hinted at it. Althought a section, two arrests and 2 A and E visits are on my side, still why am I procastinating?

Offred is right (as she always is.)

Please report for your own and your children's safety.

Do not worry about the unfit mother thing. They all threaten that, staggeringly predictable though it is. It's as if they've got a cue card in front of them

report the threat. Given his previous dodgy mental stability you would be foolish not to

OK I hear you:) just struggling wanting to know where my sensitive, funny kind husband has gone this year. 17 years of a relationships, we have had a lot of stress the last few years, and his breakdown and drinking and self harm this past year. the kids and I have hung on and loved and cared for him throughout. i just know how much he loves his kids, I just didn't see this. Not helped by a summer of him telling any one who would listen that I have ruined his life by my controlling behaviour...and all his family believe him!

Regardless of you being controlling or not, nobody in their right mind threatens to slit someone else's throat!

But do avoid contact. And if he doesn't want to talk about DC, then arrange for help yourself.