What's the problem..?

[Edith1]

Not sure if this is the right topic to put this in, but here goes..

My daughter has a friend at school who has come to all her birthday parties. Her mum seems friendly enough & has always spoken of her own daughter's birthday & letting me know when it is and where etc, however these invites have never surfaced. Earlier this year she spoke directly to my daughter inviting her round over the holidays, she then spoke to me saying she would text me suitable days etc, however I never heard anything from her. My daughter was devastated. Since then I have decided to avoid this parent.

The situation has now escalated as this parent is very friendly with a mum whose son is good friends with my son and she has clearly said something to this mum who now won't let her son come & play with my son!!!! Should I confront them!? I'm so angry not for myself, but for my children who are forming friendships only to have these horrendous parents stick the boot in! I don't understand what the problem is??

I think "confront" is the wrong word and action here.

Perhaps the other mother didnt have the right number for you, what was stopping you from texting her?

And when you say in the last paragraph "she has clearly said", then are you just assuming something has been said, without knowing for sure?

How old are the children involved in all of this?

sorry, but can you not just talk to them and ask what is going on?

You say that she says she will text but you never hear from her - do you contact her to arrange dates at all? i'll say to my kids friends parents that i'll text or calll to arrange playdates but then don't - and i genuinely don;t mean not to, i just get caught up in work or other things and forget. They know i can be a bit of an airhead when it comes to this and will happily text me to say, come on, lets hear from you with a date! Not saying its ok, just that i dont mean anything from it.

I think you should just have a friendly chat with the parent of your sons friend, saying he is upset that he can;t play and you'd like to know the reason

How old are your children?

Thanks for feedback, yes my instinct is not to confront, but feel a bit frustrated by the situation.

I suppose there is a possibility she doesn't have the right number for me, although I doubt this and when I next saw her she never mentioned anything about trying to contact me. I didn't contact her because I feel someone who makes such an invite should follow it through, also I realise things can come up and it is not always possible to have children to play, but I would expect, like I would do, a least a quick text to say ..sorry can't do it will sort another time out ...etc!

Obviously I cannot say for definite if or what has been said, but my son's friends mother attitude has definitely changed towards me and she makes vague excuses every time I've invited her son to play.

The children involved are in now year 2, and are good friends at school. My children are outgoing and friendly children & I have been told by teachers are good pupils & popular members of the class and these children have sought out to be friends with my children as much as my children want to be friends with them... It is all tittle tattle I know, but nonetheless confusing!