Hi, i am hoping that someone will be able to help me. my husband and i have been together for 8 years, married for 7. We have two boys which we both love dearly. The past couple of years have been frustrating. I am so unhappy in this relationship and at times i want to leave. I think my husband is a control freak, he thinks i over react! He treats me like a child! whatever i say or do its wrong. when he wants to talk to me i have to go to him. i'm so unhappy. Whenever i try to tell him how i feel he says i watch to much tv and dramatise everything. He constantly aggrevates me and winds me up to the point where i eventually snap so then he tells me i need help and need to see a doctor. In front of our friends he is really nice to me. I am a stay at home mum as my youngest son is only 18 months, he is always critisising me for not working.
We,ve not had any intimacy in 2 years. I feel too scared to say or do anything incase its wrong. He has no respect for me and finds an argument with everything. I feel like a maid. Im always unhappy, i get angry with the boys. Some days he can be overly nice but there are times when he will come home from work and completley ignore me for days. when i ask what the problem is he shouts at me to leave him alone. then after days of ignoring me he will wake up one morning like nothing is wrong and have a normal conversation with me. This leaving me very confused. Whenever i try to have a conversation he doesn't listen to me and starts talking about something else, ignoring me and talking over me. Whenever i discipline the kids, i do that wrong. I've had enough!
I think what i want to know is, am i being childish? or is he treating me badly?