Dh has a large number of friends, some closer than others, and he makes them very welcome which is obviously a positive trait in a person. This means every weekend and often on a weeknight, one or more friends or work colleagues are turning up, often unannounced, and spending several hours at our house. i often end up making food for them and chatting, when sometimes I'd rather be doing something else!!
I am less sociable and like my private space, and dd1 is the same. We have only one living area apart from our bedrooms, so if dd1 or I want a bit of time to ourselves, we have to go away to our bedrooms! Dd1 suffers from social anxiety too - while some of dh's friends are very friendly to her and chat away to her, she sometimes gets really fed up with the constant visitors and I feel the same. I also have dd2 who is severely disabled, and the arrival of the visitors isn't always at the best time.
Of course I have tried to explain this to dh, but he doesn't get it. He just thinks I am massively unsociable, which is not true but I don't want to always feel under siege in my own home, and it's not fair on dd1. Obviously dh is entitled to have people round, but to a more introverted person, it can be a bit of a struggle if it's nearly every day! If I occasionally have someone round myself, he will sit in on the conversation and take it over, or be very unfriendly and grumpy!
Is there any solution to this, given that dh does not seem willing to make any changes, and has just told me I 'do his head in'? :( or do I just need to get more sociable? (2 separate friends have just turned up within the last half an hour, but one did bring Jaffa cakes, so there are some plus points!)