Criticism

[runbabyrun]

Am I just being too emotional ??! Dp seems to think its okay to comment on my personality and expect me not to react.

The latest one is that I said "thanks" to him when he made space at the table for me to put something on it, he said/snapped - ( not in a nice friendly way ), dont say thankyou to me it makes me feel like you would talk to a friend like that , not me !! I dont get it , I have manners , are you not meant to have manners in a relationship?

I said stop criticising me, let me just be me.. I already have been given a few do's and don'ts in our relationship , sexual and otherwise, am I over reacting?

:)

Is he mr grey?

Because he was an arsehole too

I hope you don't think we're being harsh runbabyrun I'm thinking in light of the treatment from your DP, I don't want you to think we're bundling in as well.
You'll get good advice here

God he sounds awful. Run, run away. Life is too short and why do you need someone who is just bringing you down at every available opportunity. I mean what does he even mean about you saying thanks. It doesn't even make sense. He is fucking with you....deliberately

Oh and he won't change, no matter how many of these "guidelines" you keep to because he will just move the goalposts. Nothing you do will change him. So you either leave him or put up with this shit for the Rest. Of. Your. Life.

I agree with everyone. He's a controlling partner and not one that you need... Please leave him and find someone who makes you happy

Hi,i got a taxi and im at my parents-there away at the moment, when I told him I was goin that hes ground me down so much,he told me I was flakey and thanks for ruining his holiday. And he will let me think about things tonite,im feeling a bit crap.

I'm glad you're away. But why do you need his permission to 'think about things' tonight? Take as long as you need, you're not on his bloody timetable.

Good,
Glad you are away and l think now you should stay away. His response speaks volumes he told me I was flakey and thanks for ruining his holiday. It' all about him isn't it. No discussion-nothing,it's your fault again.
How long are you DP's away for?
Who owns the house?

There away until mon,its his house I moved in with him,Ive got a flat which Im renting out,I really appreciate the support thanks

Will your DP's let you stay until you can give notice to your tennants? If you don't want to go back to your twat of a partner that is ( and l hope you don't)

You know you deserve more than what you get from this man.

He will let you think about things. Why that's awfully kind of him.
Much obliged, I'm sure.

Excuse my sarcasm runbaby.
He clearly thinks he is the boss and that abusing you is simply a right!

I don't know if you've seen the EA support thread - if not, here's a link

..please start making an exit plan if you want to be happy again.....

You've 'ruined his holiday'? Aw, poor diddums.

And he's going to 'let' you think about things tonight? My, that's mighty big of him.

Don't bother to contact him and when he calls you, tell him you're so grateful he 'let' you think about things because your thoughts have led you to the conclusion that he's a controlling, self-obsessed, self-entitled, twat,

After you've said your piece, tell him you hope he enjoys his solo holiday and bid him goodbye forever.

And then heave a sigh of relief and start looking forward to enjoying the rest of your life.

Don't bother to contact him and when he calls you, tell him you're so grateful he 'let' you think about things, because your thoughts have led you to the conclusion that he's a controlling, self-obsessed, self-entitled, twat

Um..yeah...that's about wraps it up nicely. Thanks for the thinking time, it's been b=very useful. Toodlepip you fucking arse.

Pictish and izzy are my new heros

You don't have to stay with someone who constantly grinds you down. What is the point. Get your life back, take back control.
A relationship is supposed to be a positive thing, not something that drains you. Sounds like you have seen the light.

I sure hope the light has dawned bright for you today, honey.

Go girl!!!

Anytime you feel wobbly about going back post on here and we'll help you through it.

Think of the money you can save lodging at your parents until you can get your flat back

runbaby RUN!

Absolutely agree with everyone else, this man is abusive!

You've made the first step. Think what a lucky escape. You're not married - no divorce. You've got your own place (I know it's rented but you can rent somewhere else if needs be from the rental income at least).

If you can stay at your parents, even better. If you need to recover belongings from the shared place take someone with you.

Now you've got this far don't let him worm his way back in. Be strong!!!!