When did you know that you were "ready" to start dating again?

[nkf]

I keep thinking I should try to find another relationship or at least go out with a man. And I never make any moves to do so. And maybe I'm not ready. But I feel that the longer I wait, the less ready I will become. If you are divorced/separated/widowed, did you always know that you would start again? Or did you just meet someone?

My mum keeps adding little suffixes to plans like 'you could do x y or z but you might meet someone else' I find this hard coming from ms independent- never take orders from a man ever again that she is! I know she means well but I'd I wait for a man to show me how to live I don't think I will be v happy.

I thought I would be with STBXH forever. i cant imagine myself with somebody new, but I also dont want to be on my own for the rest of my life.....

I went on a date last Sunday. I had a lovely day with a lovely man, BUT I wanted to cry a couple of times because he wasnt STBXH and it just felt really wrong to be enjoying myself with another man..... so I guess that proved that Im not ready...

I have been separated since Easter, divorce going through soon.