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Please tell me there are sisters who get along well!

54 replies

javotte · 07/09/2012 16:16

Hello! I'm due with DD2 in 6 weeks (we already have a DS and a DD) and I've been terrified since we learnt it is a girl. All I can see around me is sisters arguing, competing for their parents' attention or simply hating one another as they grow up. Could you please share your good stories?

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booklava · 07/09/2012 18:03

I have a DS and 3 DDs and the girls get along really well most of the time they are 16, 14 & 13 now so we do have teenage tantrums sometimes but loads of lovely sisterly times as well. I also had a sister (& 3 brothers) but we fought a lot as children but get on really well now. When I was expecting DD3 I was really worried I was going to have another boy!

Bellyjaby · 07/09/2012 18:05

My sister, half sister and I don't talk to each other at all. My extended family don't really get along with each other regardless of gender!

OH's family are different, they all generally get along. Mil doesn't speak to one of her sisters but is really close with the other. The rest at least all tolerate each other.

But given my history I was very glad to discover dc2 is male. One of each sounds much easier.

Pudgy2011 · 07/09/2012 18:16

I'm the middle of 3 - older sister and a younger brother both of whom I love with everything I've got. My sister and I lost our younger brother in June to cancer so I think we are even more precious to each other now.

I live 4000 miles away though but we talk very regularly and are still very close. Had the usual fights, borrowing each other's stuff etc growing up, but have always had a close family.

stargazy · 07/09/2012 18:27

My three are all different,looks and personality but love each other to bits.Young adults now living in different cities.Of course they have had their arguments, but never anything major so far.And although over the years the dynamics have shifted eg. Middle and youngest were closest when little ,but at the mo I would say oldest and middle spend more time together, they are always in touch.

When anything goes wrong eg. Boyfriend troubles, problems at work etc. my DH laughs and says the sisterhood has swung into action because texts and messages start flying back and forth and they are there to support each other.
Lovely.Long may it continue, and I hope nothing ever comes between them, or causes a rift.

marshmallowpies · 07/09/2012 18:43

I know lots of sisters who get along...my nieces aged 3 and 7 adore each other.

My cousins who were brought up in a fairly high pressure academic family & both expected to over-achieve, are still best friends, when you might expect them to be locked in sibling rivalry.

My very glamorous social butterfly friend who is a total fashionista is great friends with her younger sister who is totally different from her & much quieter.

That's just 3 I can think of off top of my head!

I always imagined having 2 DDs would be hard work, but now having had DD1 I am happy to imagine having another DD if we do manage to have another. Would be just as happy with a DS though!

VenusStarr · 07/09/2012 19:11

Growing up we had lots of arguments but now we are adults we are best friends :) I'd say our relationship improved when my sister moved out (?!) but it meant that we could choose to spend time together, so I'd stop over on weekends and she took me for my first drink, to clubs together etc and now we're really close. We ended up living next door to each other for 3 years and I was her birthing partner earlier this year.

I'm sure things will be fine :)

glenthebattleostrich · 07/09/2012 19:15

I've just posted a thread in AIBU (brave I know!) about my lovely sister. We didn't always get on growing up but she is one of my favorite people now :)

WizardofOs · 07/09/2012 19:17

I am close to my sister although it did take until we were in our 30s before this happened. It took our mum passing away really and then lots of weird resentment and background crap just fell away.

I do think a lot of the reason we did not get on before can be laid at my mum's door which is incredibly hard to admit and face up to as I loved her very much and I don't think she intended to cause a rift.

MrsCampbellBlack · 07/09/2012 19:18

My sister and I fought like cat and dog until I went to university.

But now - she is my absolute best friend and I couldn't imagine my life without her. We don't live close to each other but I speak to her at least twice a day.

Bossybritches22 · 07/09/2012 19:24

Yep - I've had a crap few years and my sis has been there for me in many ways. Her 2 DC's & my 2 DC'S get on so well we marvel at how they just pick up where they left off as soon as they see each other.

My 2 DD's giggle & tease each other mercilessly when together & the bickering at times drives me nuts BUT when DD1 had a bad bike accident a few years ago DD2 sobbed her heart out all the way to the hospital & would n't go home with her Dad till she knew she was OK. Smile

JustTheRightAmountOfWrong · 07/09/2012 20:19

Ridiculously close to my sister, totally have each others backs, talk to each other everyday. She lives 200 miles from me but I see her fairly regularly.

Don't know what I would do without her she is my rock.

motherinferior · 07/09/2012 20:21

My sister and I weren't close as children but we're great friends now and it's a relationship I feel truly privileged to have.

My daughters fight sometimes but they really do love each other too!

Funnylittleturkishdelight · 07/09/2012 20:21

I adore my sister. I love her more than anything, I can't imagine life without her. I feel quite emotional just writing that. Yes, she infuriates me- but that's part of sisterly love.

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javotte · 07/09/2012 20:26

Wizard may I ask what your mother did wrong? So that I don't make the same mistakes...

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Mama1980 · 07/09/2012 20:29

I adore my sister, also have two brothers who I love equally were all very close. Yes my sister and I rowed (we all did) growing up but they were and still are my backup if i need them no questions asked Wink my sister and I are very close I couldn't imagine my life without them all in it.

Queenofsiburbia · 07/09/2012 20:32

I think it must help to have another one (particularly a son) as I will agree it was pretty competitive between my sister & I. Not really about school work - she's 6 years younger than me - more about who could get away with being meanest, doing something naughty, saying the most irritating thing in front of parents etc etc. I think a third sibling would have taken heat out of situation somehow.
It certainly could escalate but I think almost worse for parents when we were getting on concocting evil schemes & backing each other up in outright lies in occasional bad behaviour.

We get on very well now but, like most sisters, can wind each other up more easily than any one else in the world!

In fact I'm pregnant with my first child & reading what I've written above is making me daunted by my potential children!

Lueji · 07/09/2012 20:35

My sister and I get along just fine, although we did have our fights, but have always been best friends.

ByTheSea · 07/09/2012 20:37

My sister (16 months older) is and always has been my best friend in life. We sometimes had petty squabbles as children but always got along pretty well. My DDs, who are 3 years apart, get along pretty well (normal childhood squabbles again), and I expect they will be very close in life.

HappyAsASandboy · 07/09/2012 20:40

I have a sister who is 3.5 years older than me.

We were great friends growing up, until my sister was about 14 and me about 10, then I just bugged her because I wanted to spend time with her but she was a teenager and didn't want a little sister hanging round!

Once she went to university at 18, things were fine again and we're great friends now. I love having a sister (and I think she does too!). The four years we fought for were relatively short in an otherwise good relationship :)

pinkhousesarebest · 07/09/2012 20:41

My sister is the most important person in my life, bar my dh and dcs, right beside me in all the ups and downs, and never afraid to tell it as it is.

Pudgy how sad to lose your little brother.

permaquandry · 07/09/2012 20:50

I have 2 aged 4 and 7. They adore each other, they occasionally argue but, tbh, it's mostly the little one being a pestWink. They are quite different (this has been pointed out to me on many an a occasion) in both looks and personality. DD1 is very loving, thoughtful and calm (most of the time) and she handles her sister very well. DD2 is so cheeky, entertaining and loveable. I feel very lucky and I think they are lucky to have each other. I love my bro but I always wanted a sister. Good luck!

permaquandry · 07/09/2012 20:56

Forgot to add that they play beautifully together and that they've known from the outset, that I will absolutely not tolerate them being unkind, rude or competitive toward/with each other.

I was very insistent with these rules and I think it helped?

WizardofOs · 07/09/2012 21:00

Javotte - tis complicated but shortish version is that my sister was quite rebellious as a teenager and caused parents lots of strife (we are talking bunking off school, staying out late and smoking not sex, drugs and rock n roll). Mum would tell me a lot how awful all this was and how she wished she was more sensible like me.

Because of this I became very compliant and never rocked the boat ( or had much fun) as a teen. This big difference in our behaviour caused a bigger rift between me and my sister as mum would compare us both. I think sister was screaming out for acceptance without criticism really and never getting it.

She would also tell me things sister had said about me. Almost as if she was intentionally fueling the resentment. Turns out sister never actually said these things! No idea at all why she did that. She was a very caring loving mother in all other ways so learning this after her death has been a bit of a shock.

Still I am loving having a much better relationship with my sister who I now know I can completly rely on and probably always could.

greencolorpack · 07/09/2012 21:03

We fought a lot as teenagers but we generally get on pretty well as adults. We have a shared love of movies and certain television shows.

GooseEnthusiast · 07/09/2012 21:04

I have a sister 17 months older than me and we adore each other Grin it is possible!

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