After the best part of 5 years on multiple dating sites I met someone who seemed perfect in every way. Things seemed to be going fantastically up until the point at which we had sex. Since then the sex has always been bad to mediocre and for the first time in my life I find I'm making excuses to get out of it, pulling the whole "headache" routine, and feigning excessive tiredness. This is not like me at all as I have never not wanted to have sex when it was available in the past.
My BF is perfect in every other way, however, being kind, decent, and far better looking than almost all of my exes. We get on better and so far this is the only relationship I've ever seen a future in (and one of only 2 I've been happy in).
I have been really conflicted over whether to end it or to do everything in my power to try to fix it. I thus have a (second) individual appointment with relate later on today to see if they can help.
So my question is; how do I use this time best? What kind of help can they actually offer? I went last week and the session just seemed to involve me outlining the problem to the counsellor. She was nice and very easy to talk to given the nature of the problem, but didn't offer anything in terms of advice. Will all subsequent appointments follow this pattern? Is there actually anything that can be done to increase your attraction toward someone? Has anyone else been for this sort of counselling and what was your experience?