Where should we be in the relationship after just 4 months?

[SigmundF]

I met a man back in May and we've spent a lot of time together since, often 3/4 times a week we see each other, text/facebook daily. Good sex. Lots of affection and laughs.

Now I'm kind of wondering what happens next? how do you know when to progress things? there has been talk of meeting each other's children - especially as we'd like to spend Christmas together (meaning he'd spend christmas day with me and my kids).

What's the norm after 4 months? I've never done this dating with kids lark before.

I don't think there is any such thing as 'norm' at any time during any relationship. I think you have to go with your gut and also maybe to ask him how he feels? Maybe you just take it very slowly and don't try to force issues. Invite him for christmas - after you've discussed with your children of course.

We're all normal in our own unique way!

That sounds very promising, Sigmund, where did you meet him?

As with everything, there's no rules to this. Some people might have the "Talk" around this stage to see where things are going; in your case the fact that you've mentioned meeting kids suggests you are both serious about a long-term relationship. Especially as you're planning ahead to Christmas too.

What are you personally looking for in the long-term?

No such thing as normal. Just talk about it together. You don't have to commit to anything.

how old are the kids? like pp said, there's no such thing as normal! Sounds though like meeting the kids is your next step! but fgs don't rush into co-habiting, it all changes then!

OMG no don't have the "talk" yet! :O

Just have fun. It all sounds lovely and just right for this stage.