How do you stop caring about what people think of you?

[Pinksparklyhat]

My counsellor has said I need to stop caring about what people think of me and stop worrying whether people like me or not and just be myself. I spend/waste so much time worrying about whether people like me or not. It's ridiculous. As a result I come over as needy.

How can I stop caring?

You sound very similar to me Pinks.

Similar things were said to me by my counsellor. It's really hard to just stop caring.

Basically, my parents were not loving towards me. An emotionally distant father fond of smacking and a mother whose love was very conditional on me towing her line.

But you can do it! It's scary but worth it. Distance from your mother whilst you build up your self- confidence would probably help.

And I always find the best boost to my confidence and feeling of self worth is to contemplate just how much my dd loves, values and needs me. If I'm special to her, I must be ok

Many thanks for the replies and the nice comments.

I think the only thing that is going to work is distance from my mum. I think in the long run it would make me feel better.