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gay or bi ex please help

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entertumbleweed · 06/09/2012 02:57

hey i have been a long term follower of this forum but havent posted

about two and a half years ago i met a lovely man. sex three times a night, huge attraction.

two weeks ago he left his facebook in and there were messages to him from a girl saying she missed him and her replyed in simliar terms. He explained it but i wasnt sure and got a keylogger program (i am 39 and never did anything like this ever)

anyway got his passwords and have found out out of the blue he has been shagging men on gaydar and squirt. he is on a night shift but admitted it.

gutted as wanted a family and was ttc and its my last few years of being able. also now terrified i need std and have no faith in anything anymore not to have guess. feel sick we had unprotected sex after his had been up a guy...

just feel like it was my last chance at family

have left his stuff that was at mine (three guitars) on the pavement and hope that are taken.

have been cheated on before(another guy not this one) but with a woman and i could kind of get that....

help please

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entertumbleweed · 06/09/2012 02:58

sorry for all the typos just typing through tears!

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Makeminealarge · 06/09/2012 03:07

Could not read and run! Sincerely sorry you're having to go through this. It must be a very confusing and difficult time. Two things you will have to deal with 1-being cheated on and 2- a partner who is ( in my opinion) bisexual.

To me I think you did the right choice by getting rid. A cheat is a cheat regardless of age, sex and ethnicity of other 'person' and completely inexcusable. He disregarded your feelings and became very selfish.

Focus on yourself and don't dwell on past, I wish you all the best x

entertumbleweed · 06/09/2012 03:10

thanks its just hideous tonight.... in a way really glad i found out but its so horrid that he was sleeping with men and also me... really feel done with relationships. I honestly thought this was the best one ever.

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Offred · 06/09/2012 07:58

Sad it really doesn't matter that it was a man. It is the cheating and the lying that is the really hurtful thing. Sad

entertumbleweed · 06/09/2012 08:02

thanks, i posted a new thread as this was a bit garbled, its how you can get a person so wrong?!

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ErikNorseman · 06/09/2012 08:03

The cheating is awful whether with men or women, but it must feel even worse that he kept such a big secret from you.

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