Been married to 'D'H for 17yrs. It was a whirlwind romance -marry in haste - repent in leisure they say - my God that's true!
Had two children in quick succession and I became a SAHM which I wanted. He is very close to his family - VERY VERY close! We live next door to his parents - he already owned the house when we met and it's still in his name. I naively thought we'd move house in due course but it never happened 
His mother is quite overbearing and the matriarch which caused immense problems as she thought I was difficult as I'm not into the family get togethers that they like to have. I'm not that close to my family, and they live the other end of the country, but we'd be there for each other if we were needed.
I blamed his mother for being clingy until a friend pointed out I had misplaced anger and it was HIM I should be cross at for not being able to cut the apron strings.
By then the damage was done and my relationship with MIL is non-existent. And we still have to go there EVERY FUCKING YEAR ON XMAS DAY.
I think it's fair to say I probably had PND but didn't realise it until I started to feel better.
So, when I was a SAHM, I had no income - he wouldn't have joint accounts but kindly gave me an allowance every month. I have no idea of his actual wage but he's well paid, I know that.
When I started working again, he said I would have to pay for the shopping each week as he was buying a new family car (it was needed, as other had died). I work P/T, jobs not easy to get and I'm not qualified beyond O levels. It also works well being P/T as he works shifts so I'm around to ferry kids to after school activities.
He pays all bills except food. I pay food and some of the kid's expenses. Big things like school trips he pays for.
There is no respect in the relationship - he's unhappy 'cause we don't have sex often enough (he'd want it at least twice a day!) I am very resentful of him and I suppose I could be classed as withholding sex, but is it withholding if you don't have sex with someone because you don't like them?
Who would have sex with someone they don't like and don't respect?
On the rare occasion we have sex, it is good, he's good in bed, but I just don't feel like sharing my body with someone who doesn't help in the house very much or even do 'his' jobs (DIY, decorating, etc). It seems he's neglecting his jobs 'cause I don't have sex with him.
I'm happy to do more housework than him, I'm P/T he's F/T so it makes sense but he thinks lack of sex gives him the right to not do the necessary stuff that needs doing.
I should leave, but I know the kids would opt to stay with him as he's more easy going and it's left to me to be the disciplinarian (or the bad guy in other words) 
I couldn't stand it if they chose him over me
My only option is to wait until they go to uni and then leave I think.