Not sure if this is the right place for this but..........
DD1&2 were christened at 10 months in the same (very lovely, and very expensive) gown. DD3 is now 11 months old an we wanted her christened in this gown this month but moved it to May because my parents split up late Jan, my bro and SIL couldn't make March so mam would have been on her own (no other family) while dad sat with his family. Mam has more good days than bad but still finds it hard talking to my dad (to sort out the divorce etc) and the first dilema is that she doesn't want dad and my nanna there (his mam). I do want him there though and think I will invite him even thought this will hurt my mam.
The second dilema is that even though this has been arranged since late Feb, MIL has just decided she is in Austria (or somewhere) with Brownies (I think).
I am now 5 wks pg with baby#4 so should I just wait and get DD3 and DB4 christened together when things have settled down with mam and dad and when everyone can make it (bearing in mind that PIL are very busy at all times), DD3 can't wear the traditional gown, and I will pi$$ the vicar person off by cancelling again. Or should I go ahead with my already delayed plans, DD3 wears the gown, MIL can't come, mam could be upset and have another christening when DB4 is born? Also I'm then hypocritical wanting my bro, SIL and dad there (not bothered about nanna!) but not changing the date so MIL can be there.
Or should I forget the whole idea in the first place? Neither DH nor I are particularly religious but we want the children christened so they can be married and burried in a church should they wish, without having to be accepted into the church when they are adults (for the marriage part!).
DH thinks these rules will change by the time they are adults anyway, and isn't being very helpful in deciding. I think he wants his mam there (fair enough) but won't say it and he knows they will prob be busy on the next date we decide. And he won't say anything against my decision even if he thinks it's wrong - he'll just complain afterwards!
I'll shut up now cos this is long enough now, over to you........