i am SO angry

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On Sunday I told H our marriage was over and we agreed to separate.
He was obviously so devastated by this news that it took him until today (a whole two days later) to change his FB status to single.
Now I don't really care although it's not strictly true.
What I do care about is my brother in Germany finding out that we'd split up through FB because I hadn't told him yet.
I know this isn't AIBU but AIBU to want to punch H right now?

Umm.. you told him it was over OP and it's up to him what he does with his own facebook page really isn't it? Just because "you" hadn't told your brother yet, you're angry with your H, are you for real.

Of course not, but the stupid twunt has done it purely to piss you off, or upset you, or just to provoke you, don't give him the satisfaction.

Of course you are angry and entitled to be so, but don't let him see it!

Deep breaths

sorry OP, am with ClippedPhoenix on this one

Is there a huge back-story to this? otherwise Ladygoing doesn't make sense either?

It doesn't matter if he describes himself as single, separated, or none of the above on fuckbollocks or any other site as the fact remains that until a decree absolute is granted, he remains married in the eyes of the law.

If you're losing the plot over this trivia I dread to think what state your blood pressure will be in when you start dividing the spoils joint assets of your marriage.

exactly izzy

op - you told him you want to split.
he is making a point. and he is single - isnt he? i dont get the problem - you shouldnt give a shiny shite anymore if you are splitting up.

Look - it's bloody childish and everything, but ultimately it's his fb page and he's not responsible for your family relations any more.

Yabu sorry

This is quite ridiculous.

Oh shit! We're in relationships, sorry but still think its his fb page so his business, I can understand that you are upset but its really not his problem.

OP, if it's any consolation, breaking up isn't easy no matter who does it and for whatever reason. Emotions anger is one of them are obviously running high and yes, we all do childish things sometimes.

I do however hope things become easier for you both.

Well, I understand if no-one else does. It is awkward if your own family finds out through your stbx before you have told them. And mine tried to pre-empt me telling my parents, just to get up my nose (I'm pretty sure, it fitted with his other behaviour...)

You told him you wanted to end the marriage and it was over.

What did you expect him to do? Did you have an agreement that he would keep it secret? Did you tell him you needed time to speak with your family before it became public?

Btw this is how many people try to get some emotional support. Have you checked his page? Bet it's full of people saying "so sorry mate - call me". He needs that. Why shouldn't he reach out and get some sympathy. You're on here looking for some aren't you?