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What is the right thing to do: MIL

29 replies

everybodywalkthedinosaur · 04/09/2012 22:28

I posed under a different name about issues I had with MIL when DD was born. Certain things had been going on for a while, and I finally stood up for myself. It caused a lot of issues between DH and myself, as she's always behaved in that manner towards him, and it just goes over the top of his head. Very overbearing, domineering and belittling towards DH and myself.

Basically I said that I didn't want to see her, and therefore she wouldn't see DD as DD is solely on the boob. There's obviously a lot of back story but I got advice in regards to that before. Now all I want is a proper apology, and therefore an acknowledgment of what was wrong. This hasn't happened. It's now been three months. I think it's ridiculous as she's missing out on DD. However I need an apology.

What would you do? Sometimes I feel bad as she hasn't seen DD for three months now. However DH sends her photos and keeps her updated so she's got a long distance relationship, if that makes.sense. I don't know if she will apologise as I would have thought that she would have by now!

OP posts:
thetrackisback · 05/09/2012 23:33

Sorry it is me who mentioned dementia as I was supporting your stance by using my own experience and I think I've hijackedconfused the thread! So sorry! My have to start my own thread with my own in law thread but I fear I won't be believed......

olgaga · 05/09/2012 23:36

I think if your MIL doesn't care enough to build bridges with you that tells you everything you need to know.

Your DD will neither know nor care.

Thumbwitch · 06/09/2012 00:29

no it wasn't you, thetrack - it was EdithWeston who applied it to the OP.

mameulah · 06/09/2012 07:25

everybodywalkthedinosaur, There is ten weeks before our baby is due and I am terrified of how I cope with my il's. At the very best of times I find them intolerable, oppresive and overbearing. I don't know how I am going to share our baby with them. The only thing that makes me know I have to is that if I keep my dh and baby at the centre of my thoughts I know it is best for them. But I am definitely going to have strict boundaries. Hope this helps.

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