advice needed

[pinkkoala]

quite a long story will try to be short and to the point.
i want to leave dh, he is aggresive, bullying, likes to belittle people, doesnt work for last yr, i work partime and pay all the bills, he basically lives here for free. he often upsets 7yr old dd, he is constantly shouting at her etc.
i have got solicitor and want to divorce on unreasonable behaviour, she is saying the courts will throw it out as not enough grounds.
also i want him to leave, but obviously he isnt gohng to, why would he want to, everything free.
how do i go about looking for somewhere to rent, would i get housing benefit, i work partime and earn appox 450 a mnth, this is topped up with child benefit nd child tax credit, would i be entitled to working tax credit and surely i have given enough reasons for unreasonable behaviour.
can anybody advise, i feel trapped and havent felt this low.

i have appt with my sols in the morning to get things moving. god i feel drained, and very tearful, scared and just dont trust him.

If he acts up, call the police and have him removed from the house. It's still reasonably easy to get court orders barring an abusive man from the family home even if he owns it.

You can do this op xx

I think getting out is the priority for your own sanity. Thinking of you.

went to sols on friday, she was going to send ltr to him asking him to leave the house, he hasnt had it yet. also she was getting petition ready for courts.
i havent heard no more.
he is refusing to leave, and keeps begging me not to do it, saying to dd-mummy is splitting the home yet, making me feel so guilty.
i feej so stressed and want it over as soon as poss

What petition is the solicitor getting ready for the Courts? A divorce petition or an application for an Occupation order?

Get in touch with Women's Aid, honey. You can call the 24/7 national helpline or locate your local offices here www.womensaid.org.uk

If he kicks off or if you feel intimated or threatened by him at ANY TIME dial 999 and get the police involved. They'll tell him to stay away from your home temporarily and refer you to a domestic violence counsellor.

Forgot to convert link (again) www.womensaid.org.uk

the police were here last weds, so i wouldnt hesitate now.
i think she means a divorce petition but she did say she was going to write to him asking him to leave, but he hasnt had it yet.

You were told last Friday your solicitor would write to him. It's now Tuesday and he's had no letter and that's not satisfactory in cases of domestic violence.

IME it takes more than a letter to persuade a abusive twunt to leave the marial home and I would again suggest that you make contact with Women's Aid tomorrow who can advise and support you with regard to making an application for an Occupation order.

In the meantime, keep your mobile by your side at all times and have it ready to call 999 at the press of one button when you're in the house with him.

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